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Archive for July, 2007

"Conscious Evolution" and You

In my reading this morning, on July 25th, the “day out of time” of the Mayan calendar, these words has particular resonance for me (pg 62 “Emergence” by Barbara Marx Hubbard)

“When we make the choice to invite our Essential Self to take dominion within, we are, each of us, crossing the great divide from unconscious to conscious self-evolution.  By this choice, we are transforming the nature of evolution, person by person, for evolution proceeds ever more by choice rather than by chance from this time forward”.

In the context of our world today, this has extraordinary meaning.  What if evolution has been a totally involuntary and biological imperative until now and now we need to choose?  Wow!

Enjoy this auspicious day.

namaste,

Zoey

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

life & business coach for women

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

More For Travelers

If you love traveling, enjoy meeting new people, engaging in great conversations and want to support peace in the world, check out: www.peacefulworldtravel.org

namaste,

Zoey

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

life & business coach for women

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

If You Love to Travel But Can't

For those of you who love travelling and the idea of travelling but might not be able to pull it off at the moment, enjoy the following books and get a “hit” of travel adventure!

“Eat, Pray, Love” by Elizabeth Gilbert; “The Tales of a Female Nomad” by Rita Golden Gelman; “Beyond The Sky and the Earth: A Journey Into Bhutan” by Jamie Zeppa; “Holy Cow: An Indian Adventure” by Sarah Macdonald and “Walking the Camino de Santiago” by  Bethan Davies and Ben Cole.

The first four I believe are best described as travel memoirs and the last book is a guide book to the Camino de Santiago. 

I love this type of reading for the summer!  Enjoy!

namaste,

Zoey

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

life & business coach for women

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

Rules vs Monkey Bars

Quite a few years ago, I created the Positively Outrageous Game for Women, which has taken on a variety of forms over the years.

What I have come to is that the POW Game is the game of life and have created a series of podcasts so women could play the game: http://www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com/thepowgame.htm   

For the game, I developed a series of “rules”, that if followed allowed one to play the game of life more easily.  It didn’t quite feel right using the word “rules” but I didn’t have any alternative until I heard from another coach, the metaphor of “monkey bars”.

Remember the old fashioned steel monkey bars from our childhood playgrounds?  Think of the rules for the positively outrageous game, the game of life as the steel bars of the monkey bars.  Having these bars in place allows us to freely swing and play in the in-between spaces!  The solid structure of the rules/bars, actually gives us more freedom in our lives!

So, try constructing the monkey bars of your life and swing freely today!

namaste,

Zoey

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

life & business coach for women

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

Spiritual Growth, Barbara Marx Hubbard and Emergence

I recently started re-reading “Emergence: The Shift from Ego to Essence 10 Steps to the Universal Human”

by Barbara Marx Hubbard.  I first read it in about 2002, just after it was published and loved how in alignment it is with coaching and the work I do with women in accessing their internal wisdom and essence.  I worked through the 10 step process and feel I really connected with my own wise internal self at that time.  I have found that it is easy to lose the process and energy and get pulled back into ego.  I know this is part of the journey.

I really like though, how Barbara describes our two selves in non-hierarchical terms ie she uses the terms “local self” and “essential self”.

In reading this amazing book again, I am reminded of it’s simplicity and elegance.  I also love the organizational model it is centered around, ie co-creation and the fact that it emcompasses a total historical and whole sytems way of viewing our planet.

Learn more about Barbara at: http://www.barbaramarxhubbard.com//Public/Home/index.cfm and if you have read “emergence”, I would love to discuss it with you.

namaste,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan, PCC

coach . catalyst . shakti sage
life & business coach for women
www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

 

Women Entrepreneurs: Tame and Re-Claim the Power of Your Business Dragons

“Taming and Re-claiming the Power of Your Business Dragon(s)”
What scares you about business?
What stops you from moving forward in your business and taking your business to the next level?
What is the one thing that would have the greatest positive impact on your business that you think you can not do?

As a business coach, these are three important questions I ask clients so that we can start to unearth their business success dragons/gremlins.  Our dragons/gremlins are those voices in our heads that go something like this “who do you think you are to try this”?  “Are you kidding, you be successful at anything”?  “You never finish anything that you start”.  There is huge power to be accessed within these voices if you can minimize the negative effects and make friends with them.  Use the following questions to help you identify and befriend your business dragons and if you would like some help with this, let me know!
Identify three life and/or business dragons or gremlins and describe what those “voices” say to you:

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Get to know the dragons (colour, shape, gender, age, clothing, age, name): 

 

Describe your dragons to another person and listen to theirs:

 

Now, what feels like the scariest thing to do to move forward with your business?
Resource: “Taming Your Gremlin: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way” by Rick Carson

namaste,

Zoey

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

life & business coach for women

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

Women, Thanks to Andrew Cohen We Can Now Come Together Beyond Ego

I didn’t know that women have a trickier time transcending ego until Andrew Cohen told me (in “What is Enlightenment” July – September 2007).

I am also very happy to report that we can now come together beyond ego, thanks to Andrew.

From WEI, page 59 says Cohen:  “So this ‘new women’s liberation’ is a project that I’ve been working very hard on for quite a long time, and I believe that in the last year or so I have achieved significant victory.  I have a group of women I’m working with now who have finally taken that bold leap to come together beyond ego.  I cracked this thing, for the first time really, last summer, and since that time, these women have started to simply delight in each other’s company in a way that is not the kind of thing women usually do.  It sounds very simple, but it’s actually quite a profound shift.  Women can share all kinds of personal places and spaces together, but to simply delight in being together in a profound level of trust and transparency and impersonal care is very rare indeed, as far as I know!”

Golly gee Andrew, I will be sure to let all my dear women friends know!

Might there be another ego in the room that needs transcending, hmmmmm?

namaste,

Zoey

coach . catalyst . shakti sage
life & business coach for women
www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

I Love Seth Godin!

No, my husband does not need to get jealous, although he should read this book too! I’m talking about “small is the new big: and 183 other riffs, rants, and remarkable business ideas” by Seth Godin. I have read (well, kind of skimmed might be more accurate) some of his other books and really like his writing style and his words. When I sat down to read “small is the new big” I was prepared to enjoy it but wasn’t counting and learning so much and having a “light bulb moment”!

I have long been fascinated with computers, technology, marketing and how the brain works. Given that I am a work from home entrepreneur and live in a kind of crazy family with three teenage daughters, a dog, 2 cats, one turtle and one adorable husband, I haven’t had time to learn all that much about technology, let’s just say, I am not a techie.

Somehow though, with reading “small is the new big”, my brain started making connections in a new way and I went “holy moly, why didn’t I see this before” about my vision for my business with respect to marketing. It was a true lightbulb moment! I can’t even describe what my light bulb said (I don’t have the language to describe it, it is a mess of matrixed thinking), nor which part of the book inspired me, it was the whole package. Not to mention that I learned a whole bunch of new (for me) stuff about technology.
So, get yourself a copy and see what happens!

namaste,

Zoey

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

life & business coach for women

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

Life Success Tips

Tips for Life Success

Have you heard the saying, “you are what you think”, what about “your outer world is an out picturing of your inner world”?  Your thoughts are powerful and act as a basis for change and transformation.  As you bring clarity and organization to your thoughts there is a heightened ability to focus and bring success to all areas of your life.   Try out the tips this month to get organized mentally and remember, if you think you can, you can.  If you think you can’t you are right!
Tip #1
Focus on one area that you want to change. Ask yourself: why is this change important, what are the benefits, what will happen if I don’t make this change and how will I measure success. Write down the answers!  Connect with feeling to the reasons to make this change.

Understand and sense of the difference between “scattered thinking” and “peaceful thinking”.  Many spiritual traditions distinguish between ego and the higher self.  An ego out of balance is also called “monkey mind”.  Visualize a tree full of jumping, squealing monkeys.  Tame those wild monkeys and achieve a peaceful thinking state, by sitting quietly or meditating daily.

Tip # 2
What is your inspiration for making a change?  Think about a time in your life that you felt totally “in the zone” what were the characteristics of your life?  What inspires you now?  Who inspires you?  Develop a compelling story for your inner coach to remind you of.

Start with your end vision in mind.  As you develop clarity and become specific about where it is you are going in different areas of your life, your vision becomes a touchstone or a lighthouse. Write out your vision and include as much detail as possible.  Revisit, re-read and revise your vision regularly. 

Tip # 3
How do you put blocks in the way of your success?   Is it one of the top three; not enough time, energy or money!  Get really clear on the reason you allow yourself to not succeed and ask what needs to be in place to work through the blocks.  Design your personal support team!

Tap into the power of both intentions and goals.  Intentions are used to draw you forward and attract results.  Goals are something you actively move towards and are often attached to an action plan.  Write down your goals and intentions using a preface like “I intend to attract more ….  into my life” and “it is my goal to …”.  Choose goals that are realistic, measurable and achievable.

Tip # 4
You are well on your way to success and… something unexpected comes up!  Sounds familiar?  Stop and design a contingency plan right now.  Be clear on all elements, use your inner coach and plan ahead.  Develop an affirmation that includes the reason for making the change and your compelling story.

Get clear on your personal definition of success. Spend time reflecting on this topic, ask yourself, “what needs to be in place in my life for me to feel successful” and write down your answers.  Integrate this definition into your thought patterns through an affirmation stated as though the “success” was already in place.

Tip # 5
Build on your success!  Maintain long-term sustainable change by celebrating and congratulating yourself along the way.  Identify mileposts and design simple celebratory routines.  Share your success stories with others, get excited about the results and ask your inner coach to remind you, never to give up!

Use all your senses to support your mental organization.  Think again of the scattered or monkey mind and a peaceful mind.  Pick a mental picture to attach to these two states.  Now add sound, smell, touch and temperature to your visual.  As you become skilled in moving into a peaceful mind state, your thoughts gain power, clarity and focus.

namaste,

Zoey

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

Zoey Ryan, PCC
life & business coach for women
www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

7 Tips for Bustin' Loose with Summer

“May your life be like a wildflower, growing freely in beauty and joy each day.”
– Native American Proverb
It has been a weekend of celebration, Canada Day, Independence Day, a good friend’s birthday (Happy Birthday Vicki) and 13 years of sobriety for me.  I am reminded of all the women struggling with and recovering from addictions; addictions to alcohol, drugs, perfection, caffeine, work, food; the list is endless.  In a workshop I attended, we were asked to identify the most courageous person we know.  I thought then, as I do now of all the courageous women taking it one hour at a time, one day at a time, one month at a time to consciously live a life of serenity and freedom from addictions, whether their own addictions or that of someone close to them.  These are truly positively outrageous women!
“God, grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can and the wisdom to know the difference.”
- The Serenity Prayer
Yippee, it’s Summertime!

“Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean–
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down–
who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.
I don’t know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
With your one wild and precious life?”
– The Summer Day, by Mary Oliver
7 things you can do right now to bust loose!

* Go berry picking and enjoy scrumptious sun warmed fresh berries.
* Plan a skinny dipping adventure.
* Play beach volleyball, lawn badminton or paddle ball.  Remember the exuberance of summers as a kid!
* Do the thing you always say you will do in the summer but have never taken time for!
* Spend time screaming every day, maybe on the rollercoaster, maybe with laughter, maybe while watching a classic scary movie.  Open your mouth and really let the sound out!
* Sign up for the, Positively Outrageous Women’s Retreat to Mexico, Jan 13-19, 2008 (go to www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com for more info)
* Take time to garden, dig around in the dirt and visit with the “other inhabitants”.

“Gardening is a vehicle for spiritual and emotional connection.  It is nothing short of miraculous: You kneel, dig a bit, drip in a seed, add water, and wait.  In time the miracle unveils itself, beginning with an ever-so-tentative shoot of green: Life!”
– Peg Streep

Enjoy the summer energies!

namaste,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan, PCC

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

life & business coach for women

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

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