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Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for April 23, 2008

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for This Week

This week, we will continue to go deeper with the concept of connecting with a body-centered, “felt” experience of your own personal centerpoint, that place deep inside you where you feel the most you, where when you take your self there in your thoughts, there is peacefulness, calmness and a sense of the “essence of you”.

Visualizations can be so powerful, and I want to share  two visualizations that you can use to strengthen and deepen your felt sense of your personal center.  In your “mind’s eye”, imagine yourself as a tall, stately, flexible palm tree, or alternately as a beautiful lotus flower floating on the water.  Both the palm tree and the lotus are firmly rooted and anchored in the ground or soft mud of the earth or lake bottom.

The self-care enchantments for this week are about you deepening your experience of your essence and your calm centerpoint.

Self Care Enchantments for the week:

1.    Again, use the following affirmation to start: “I center my mind in stillness, I center my body in the breath, I center my heart in love and I find myself centered in the cosmos” (adapted from the 13 Moon Natural Time calendar).
2.    Sit for a moment and really get a sense of yourself firmly grounded and rooted, flexible and bendable like the lotus or palm tree.  Add a sprinkle of the “essence of you” to the visual (think of fairy dust ).
3.    Pick either the palm tree visualization or the lotus visualization, whichever resonates most with you and practice this daily!  This is a particularly powerful exercise to use if you experience any chaos this week, remember the visualization and challenge yourself by “holding your calm center” in the midst of the chaos!

namaste,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan
coach . catalyst . shakti sage
life & business coach for women
“Coaching for your heart & soul”
www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com
www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com
604-323-3700

“I walk ahead of myself in perpetual expectancy of miracles”  – Anais Nin


Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for April 17, 2008

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for This Week

Continuing on the theme of mindfulness, this week, I want you to cast your attention and awareness to the concept of connecting with a body-centered, “felt” experience of your own personal centerpoint, that place deep inside you where you feel the most you, where when you take your self there in your thoughts, there is peacefulness, calmness and a sense of the “essence of you”.

I remember one of the most powerful experiences that I have had of this.  It was a few summers ago and we were on our sailing holiday with some very good friends and had our boats rafted together.  My husband, all the kids and friends had gone to shore and I was alone on the boat.  We were anchored in a serene, quiet, cove and it was a glorious sunny summer morning.  I had a good cup of java, was sitting on the bow of the boat writing in my journal and I remember feeling deeply that “this is me, I feel “me” deep inside, everything is right with my world, I feel the most “me” I have ever felt.  Later, as I was de-constructing the experience, I realized that I had given myself awareness and attention; that I was totally in the present moment and that I was in a state of mindfulness and being in nature, in almost a state of natural grace.  I had connected with my centerpoint.  Now, when things get crazy and chaotic (sometimes that feels like it is… always in a household with three teenage and older daughters, a dog, 2 cats a turtle and my husband and I), I remember that morning on the boat.  With that memory, comes a body-centered felt remembrance and I melt into my center point and feel peace and calmness wash over me.

So, the self-care enchantments for this week are about you finding that inrageous place that is your personal centerpoint, your own “shelter from the storm”.

Self Care Enchantments for the week:

1.    Use the following affirmation to start: “I center my mind in stillness, I center my body in the breath, I center my heart in love and I find myself centered in the cosmos” (adapted from the 13 Moon Natural Time calendar).
2.    Close your eyes, go inside and think of a time that you felt “the most you”.  Sink into this feeling and “take yourself back there in your mind”.  Smell the smells, hear the sounds, feel the textures, breathe in the experience, feel the feelings.  Scan you body to see how your body feels and “lock in” this experience, give it a name or… use the words, essence, centerpoint, still point.  Anchor in the feelings of peacefulness, stillness and serenity.  Bring exquisite mindfulness to this exercise.
3.    Practice this daily and attend to your responses!

namaste,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan
coach . catalyst . shakti sage
life & business coach for women
“Coaching for your heart & soul”
www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com
www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com
604-323-3700

“I walk ahead of myself in perpetual expectancy of miracles”  – Anais Nin

I'm A Hippy Grandma In Training

I love how amazing the human body is!  It is close to my eldest daughter’s birthday (she will be turning 20) and around this time of the year, I remember so clearly, the day our lives changed for ever with her birth!  There is nothing like becoming a mom to turn one’s life topsy turvy forever.  I count the births of our three daughters as three of the most profound and powerful experiences of my life and remember too, that insatiable drive and desire to have a baby before we had the first one.
Now, with the whole menopause thing behind me and with less fluctuation in my hormones, I am starting to feel that same draw for the wonder of a baby, but this time, its’ about becoming a grandma.  Now, I have no desire for my girls to have babies before they are ready but I find my thoughts drawn to being a grandma.  I am talking to grandmas, listening to their stories, loving the pictures and reported anecdotes and I realize, I am a “grandma in training”.  Given what I know about myself and my commitment to keep this world safe and healthy for the next seven generations as well as my “kind of boho-chic, thrift store find” style, I realize the I am a “hippy grandma” in training!

Hmmmm, I am going to ponder what all this means.

namaste,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

hippy grandma in training

life & business coach for women

Coaching for your heart & soul

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

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Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for April 10, 2008

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for This Week

The self care discussions of the past few weeks have been kind of “heady”, requiring self-inquiry and reflection.  Let’s change things up abit and for this week, sink into body centered practices and the concept of mindfulness.

Jon Kabat – Zinn in his book, “Coming To Our Senses: Healing Ourselves And The World Through Mindfulness” calls “mindfulness” a particular kind of awareness, he says “Mindfulness is the final common pathway of what makes us human, our capacity for awareness and for self-knowing.  Mindfulness is cultivated by paying attention, and, as we shall see, this paying attention is developed and refined through a practice know as mindfulness meditation’.  I add that mindfulness is about using all of you, all your senses and all of your body, to put your full self into living your life!

So, the self-care enchantments for this week are about paying attention to yourself, your life and your body and about deepeing your awareness and mindfulness.

Self Care Enchantments for the week:

1.    For this week, every morning before getting out of bed, ask yourself, “how does my body feel, where do I feel tight, or tense or relaxed and melted”.
2.    Pick a food that you enjoy, something like a fresh strawberry, cool firm grape or a delicious bowl of homemade soup.  Eat this food with mindfulness, care and attention, savouring every mouthful, fully experiencing all the flavours, textures and smells.  Draw out the eating of this food, make it slow and sensual; spend at least 5 minutes eating this one food!  Do you feel satiated?
3.    Think of the areas or times in your life that you are “mindless” not “mindful”.  How does mindlessness serve you and not serve you?

If you feel drawn to this, write about your experiences with mindfulness this week.  You may wish to start a mindfulness journal or a mindfulness ritual.  Enjoy the fullness of you!

namaste,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan
coach . catalyst . shakti sage
life & business coach for women
“Coaching for your heart & soul”
www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com
www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com
604-323-3700

“I walk ahead of myself in perpetual expectancy of miracles”  – Anais Nin

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for April 3, 2008

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for This Week

Building on the discussion of last week, one of the positive outcomes of going through a time of dissonance and chaos is that a time of chaos often precipitates a re-evaluation of personal values.

“Values” are the essence of who we are.  Values are principles that you hold to be of worth in your life.  Values are those things considered right, worthwhile, and desirable – the basis of guiding principles and standards.  Examples of values are: honesty, integrity, freedom, community, social responsibility, authenticity etc.  “Crystal values” are those values that are so important that if not present in your life will cause your life to shatter.  Think of what would happen if you dropped a crystal ball.  “Rubber values” are those values that you can drop for awhile with no problem and will come bouncing back when necessary.  Think of what happens when you drop a rubber ball.

Getting really clear on the values that are most important to you personally will give you a framework for making decisions, taking forward movement and assessing dissonance in your life.  Let me tell you about a client of mine.  Carol had identified that she held “social responsibility” and “respect for nature” as very strong values.  She found out that the company she was working for was pumping toxic waste into the local watershed.  She decided that she could no longer work for that company and in fact, felt she needed to report the company for the poor environmental business practices.  In spite of the fact that being unemployed was not attractive, Carol stayed true to her values and resigned.  While she had to deal with some short- term financial issues, this decision was worth it to her as she gained so much in the areas of self-honoring and self respect.

Is how you live your life in sync with your personal values?  If it is, you likely feel great, in balance and fulfilled.  If how you are living your life is out of sync with your values, you may feel discontented, frustrated and “not all there”, kind of like you are living someone else’s life.

So, the self-care enchantments for this week are all about giving yourself the time to gain or re-gain clarity about your values and how you use your values in your life and work.

Self Care Enchantments for the week:

1.    Set aside about 30 minutes and first create a list of “value words” and then ponder and identify which ones are your “crystal values” and “rubber values”.  Most people find that they have about 4 crystal values and about 4-6 rubber values.  Let me know if you need help with this exercise!
2.    Think of a chaotic time in your life and ask yourself what role values  or values out of sync played in the chaos.
3.    Treat yourself to something special for doing this exercise with flowers, a candle lit bath, a new yummy book, or something totally unexpected.

Although gaining clarity on your values and how you use them is already a huge gift to yourself, it strengthens your commitment to live by your values if you also add in the treat!

namaste,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan
coach . catalyst . shakti sage
life & business coach for women
“Coaching for your heart & soul”
www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com
www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com
604-323-3700

“I walk ahead of myself in perpetual expectancy of miracles”  – Anais Nin

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