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Women’s Wisdom: Thought for the Day

I woke up with a song already playing in my head, ‘I Am Woman’ by Helen Reddy and first heard in the 1970’s.

‘I Am Woman’ became the theme song for many in the early days of women’s lib.

On a stormy rainy and dark Vancouver morning and preparing to teach a prenatal yoga class, I am reminding myself:

I am strong

I am invincible

I am woman

Hear me roar!

Happy Friday…

Hippie love & peace for generations,

Zoey

Eco Business & Life Coach for wise women

Coaching to set your heart & biz on fire & soothe your soul

Women ~ Health ~ Life: Heart Centered Self Care for Life Balance

You Deserve To Take Care Of You!

I remember when I returned from an extended stay in Yelapa, Mexico which included the final week as the women’s coaching and yoga retreat which I organized and facilitated.  During this break and retreat from “usual life” I had the opportunity to reflect, renew and review.  I was reminded  again of the importance of calming ourselves and self care and how many of us can get so caught up in being caring of others that we forget to take care of ourselves.

 

Over the past few months I have been re-reading Jack Kornfield’s excellent book, “A Path With Heart” and during the retreat we discussed the section about the paradox of being “selfless” or having “no self” and having a healthy and strong “sense of self” and “true self”.  Kornfield says “There are two parallel tasks in spiritual life.  One is to discover selflessness, the other is to develop a healthy sense of self.  Both sides of that apparent paradox must be fulfilled for us to awaken.”  I would say that this can be applied to general life as well as spiritual life and helps to clarify the definition of “self-care”.  Life coaches often talk about “self-care” and how important it is to put yourself at the top of the list.

 

For clarity, “inrageous/outrageous self care enchantments aka tips”, are tips that are designed to support you to develop a healthy sense of self (your inrageous or inner work), so that you can go out into the world in your relationships, duties and obligations from a strong personal foundation and center.  The metaphor that is often used is that of being on a plane and the safety talk, where the flight attendant reinforces that if you are traveling with children, that it is important to put your own oxygen mask on first, then help your kids with their mask.  The principle is that if you are not being “well oxygenated”, you can’t help others.

 

So, the self-care is about taking care of you! It is about self reflection and self-awareness and enchanting both your inner and outer lives, it is about creating a healthy sense of self.

 

Self-care enchantments for you:

 

  1. Create time for yourself everyday, even if it is 5 minutes and reflect on what nourishes and enchants you.
  2. Put yourself at the top of your priority list.
  3. Let go of one “should do” this upcoming week.
Have a wonderful day my friends!

In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

values based leadership & life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Enjoy this special calming visual … with ‘blissings’ from Zoey

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
~ Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

 

Women ~ Life ~ Health: Self-Care is not Selfish aka a Living a Life in Balance

In my last blog post, I listed 7 key life coaching tips or words of wisdom,  for help in obtaining and living a ‘life in balance’ for women.

 

Tip # 1 is – Put yourself at the top of the list of priorities!

 

Many women I work with say, “Hey, I couldn’t do this, that would be selfish.  What about my kids?  What about my work? My family?”.

 

The intention with this ‘life coaching tip’ isn’t that you forget about your caring and your relationships.  Rather, it is taking a slightly different look at life and life beliefs.

 

In our current culture, we are still feeling the influence of ‘agricultural society values’ from yesteryear, where physical strength and pregnancy/birthing were two key factors in identifying roles.  Add in old time Christian teaching that ‘the man is the head of the household’ and the end result is that without personal reflection and inquiry, many women fall into a ‘victim’ role in the family and community, without even knowing it.

 

Self care is really about knowing yourself well.  Knowing what your emotional and physical needs are, what your values are, when you feel taken advantage of, when you feel overwhelmed, when you feel fully nourished, balanced and fulfilled.

 

Here’s an example…. Jane is a working mom, trying to balance making lunches, driving to school and soccer practice, work, groceries, spending time with her guy, seeing her parents … you get the picture!  She’s in survival mode, always on the brink of overwhelm.  Every 6 to 8 weeks though, she  gets sick with a cold type illness and needs to ‘crash’ for a few days.  Though she feels guilty for missing work, she kind of relishes the ‘sick days’ as she gets cared for with things like ‘hot tea in bed’ and can stay home in bed and read all day, while her hubby drives kids to school and makes meals.

 

What’s the pattern here?  It’s push push push …. crash; push, push, push …crash!  It’s speaks to her relationship with her husband and role allocation.  It speaks to her family of origin (I’ll bet this is how her mom did life), it speaks to what she is modeling for her kids (you only get to read in bed all day if you are sick).

 

With good self care, how could Jane’s pattern be different?  If she understood her socio-cultural conditioning, her deep emotional, physical, psychological, spiritual needs; she would have a solid foundation to clearly ask for what she needs from those in relationship with her.  For example, she could re-negotiate role responsibility with her husband, she could set up a car pool for driving to soccer etc.  Also, Jane realized that she had completed stopped her yoga, which she had previously really enjoyed.  Jane joined a yoga studio and also booked in a series of therapeutic massages.  Although the massage therapy was totally covered through Jane’s extended medical plan, she had been too busy to even explore her benefits!

 

By being clear on her own needs and ensuring these needs are met, Jane is giving her self great self care and therefore feels happier and more in balance.  Jane realized that she had been only doing things for herself once all the other ‘to dos’ were completed. Now she is at the top of the list and can care for others from a solid inner balanced core of emotional and spiritual strength!

 

Give it a try my beautiful friends!

 

In peace and mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

mindfulness life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Enjoy this special calming visual … with ‘blissings’ from Zoey 

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

 

 

 

Women ~ Life ~ Health: 7 Key Coaching Tips for a Life in Balance

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care “Enchantments” aka Healthy Life Coaching Tips for Wise Women

 Coaching Tips:

  1. Put yourself at the top of the priority list.
  2. Daily, check in and ask yourself, “What message is my body giving me?  What activities/food/beverages/exercise does my body need more of?  What does my body need less of?”  Listen to and act on the messages.
  3. Develop your own self-care routine.  Ask yourself, what do I need to do for myself on a daily, weekly, monthly, bi-annual and annual basis to really take care of myself.
  4. Plan a “retreat day” or weekend and craft our ideal self-nourishing time.
  5. Make a list of all the areas in your life that are energy drains and start eliminating the energy leaks.
  6. Decide which people in your life energize you and which people drain you and spend most of your time with the “energizers”!
  7. Spend time every day in solitude, doing nothing, no reading, no music.  Sit and appreciate your life and acknowledge yourself for all the great parts of you!  You are a positively outrageous wise woman!

 

“In solitude we give passionate attention to our lives, to our memories, to the details around us.”

–       Virginia Woolf

 

In your process of developing your self care routine, it may also be helpful to ask your self the following questions:

 

  1. What is my main focus for the season?  Is there a theme/picture/song which typifies this focus?
  2. What do I need to release and let go of?
  3. How can I simplify my life?
  4. Do I feel blocked in any area of my life?
  5. Are my priorites in order?
  6. Do I live life by my values.
  7. Is my life reactive or proactive?
  8. How are my primary relationships?
  9. How is my physical health?
  10. In what areas does my life flow effortlessly?

 

Take time for personal inquiry and self-reflection.  It helps to set aside a specific time each day to do this and to write down your answers,  Many women like to have a special and beautiful journal your answers.  If you feel you would benefit from support with this process, consider working with a life coach who will act as your cheerleader and partner in your personal development process.

 

In peace & mindfulness,

 

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

mindfulness life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Enjoy this special calming visual … with ‘blissings’ from Zoey 

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

 

Women ~ Health ~ Life: Nature & Spirituality

It is said in many spiritual traditions that sunrise and sunset are those times of day when the veil between the physical world and the spiritual world is the thinnest.

Personally, I find sunrise and sunset to be magical.

If I can, I pause and say a prayer of thanks and gratitude for all my life’s blessings.

I would like to share the photo of a magical sunset from the Gulf Islands of BC that I experienced last night.

In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

personal life coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
~ Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

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Women ~ Health ~ Life: Mindfulness Based Body Centered Life Coaching

I talk about my style of coaching as being a matrix, with the following concepts and pairs layered and angled: art & science, yin & yang, mind & heart, body & soul, broad & deep, eastern & western etc! I add to this blend my life experience and various forms of formal training to create a blend of coaching for the body, mind and soul.

Two wonderfully valuable resources that have informed my practice are listed below:

‘Wise Heart: A Guide to the Universal Teachings of Buddhist Psychology” by Jack Kornfield

And

“Body Centered Coaching: Using the Body as a Resource For Change” by Marlena Field, PCC, CPCC

Enjoy this magnificent day!

In peace and mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
leadership, executive & personal life coach

coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

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Women ~ Health ~ Life: A Summer Sailing Vacation Nourishes My Soul

I am slowly feeling re-energized and have been reminded how important it is to take time off!

Recently, and totally unconsciously, I got back on the treadmill, albeit, a ‘health’ treadmill. I over did ‘life’ by over scheduling and even though it was all activities I love, my energy was depleted.

Life coaches should know better, right?

Well, this life coach miscalculated. I felt the adrenalin rush from thinking I could do it all, from feeling almost invincible. My body feels different too, shallower breathing, and a kind of vibrating intensity.

So, now, I’m sitting on our sailboat, in Plumper Cove, off Keats Island, on the Sunshine Coast of BC, being gently rocked by the sea.

Ahhh, this is nourishment for my body and soul.

In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
leadership ~ executive ~ life coaching for women

coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

View from the boat at Keats Island

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Women | Life | Natural Health: Life Lessons & The Meaning of Wisdom

My life lesson at the moment is about what it really, deeply means to exhibit and embody wisdom!

I know that some folks seem to be born wise, some women develop wisdom with age and very ancient women seem to exude wisdom.

In my life, whether in my family or in my work, my “wisdom learning” currently is about learning to “refrain” and learning to “contain”.

My life pattern has been to be vocal, passionate & opinionated.

In my wisdom, I see this pattern as containing seeds of aggression and lots of ‘ego’.

So, as I am training for elder hood, I am learning to be still, be quiet, simplify!

Enjoy your day beautiful friends …

In peace & mindfulness,

namaste

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
life ~ leadership ~ executive coach for women

Leadership & life coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

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Women | Health | Life: Women in Leadership

I offer you these words of wisdom about women and success from a courageous woman leader, Anita Roddick. Anita founded ‘The Body Shop’ with a friend and grew this business through passion and the purpose of women helping women, sustainability and reducing violence towards women. The original Body Shop ads were provocative, edgy and effective.

I was honoured to be able to experience Anita’s charisma first hand, when she visited Vancouver.

Anita passed on a few years ago and she remains a powerful role model for me in women and leadership.

Anita’s words of wisdom …

To succeed you have to believe in something with such a passion that it becomes a reality.’

Enjoy these words of wisdom and your day!

In peace & mindfulness…

namaste,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
life ~ leadership ~ executive coach for women

Life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul

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Women | Life | Work: Heart Centered Leadership

What is ‘leadership’ and what kind of a leader are you? Here are some words of wisdom from  two skilled and experienced women leaders and organizational development specialists!

 

“Great leaders are conscious guardians of both personal and organizational vision and values. This guardianship becomes part of who they are, and guides all they do.”

From ‘Legacy Leadership: The Leader’s Guide to Lasting Greatness’ by Jeannine Sandstrom and Lee Smith

This quote can also apply to being a leader in your family if you substitute the word ‘family’ for ‘organization’.

In peace & mindfulness,

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namaste,

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Zoey

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Zoey Ryan BSc, PCC
life ~ leadership ~ executive coach for women

Coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

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