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Los Cabos Love: Fond Memories

Fond memories of fun times with friends in San Jose del Cabo. This is from the funky beach restaurant that was on the beach side of the road to La Palmilla. I can’t for the life of me remember the name but I do remember the fun!

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Women ~ Life ~ Health: Monday Mornings Back To Work

I needed a little help getting going this Monday morning when my alarm went off at 5:15 am and then I thought of all the parents and athletes from the Olympics who have all likely had many, many early mornings!

I thought too of folks single parenting and those who do runs and bike rides and paddles all for cancer research.

So, here I am, with runners on, heading out for a run and then a wonderful full week of work!

I am motivated by others dedication and the great work we are currently doing in our prenatal health coaching and yoga with vulnerable pregnant moms!

Have a fabulous day beautiful wise women!

In peace and mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

mindfulness life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Enjoy this special calming visual … with ‘blissings’ from Zoey

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
~ Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

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Women ~ Life ~ Health: Self-Care is not Selfish aka a Living a Life in Balance

In my last blog post, I listed 7 key life coaching tips or words of wisdom,  for help in obtaining and living a ‘life in balance’ for women.

 

Tip # 1 is – Put yourself at the top of the list of priorities!

 

Many women I work with say, “Hey, I couldn’t do this, that would be selfish.  What about my kids?  What about my work? My family?”.

 

The intention with this ‘life coaching tip’ isn’t that you forget about your caring and your relationships.  Rather, it is taking a slightly different look at life and life beliefs.

 

In our current culture, we are still feeling the influence of ‘agricultural society values’ from yesteryear, where physical strength and pregnancy/birthing were two key factors in identifying roles.  Add in old time Christian teaching that ‘the man is the head of the household’ and the end result is that without personal reflection and inquiry, many women fall into a ‘victim’ role in the family and community, without even knowing it.

 

Self care is really about knowing yourself well.  Knowing what your emotional and physical needs are, what your values are, when you feel taken advantage of, when you feel overwhelmed, when you feel fully nourished, balanced and fulfilled.

 

Here’s an example…. Jane is a working mom, trying to balance making lunches, driving to school and soccer practice, work, groceries, spending time with her guy, seeing her parents … you get the picture!  She’s in survival mode, always on the brink of overwhelm.  Every 6 to 8 weeks though, she  gets sick with a cold type illness and needs to ‘crash’ for a few days.  Though she feels guilty for missing work, she kind of relishes the ‘sick days’ as she gets cared for with things like ‘hot tea in bed’ and can stay home in bed and read all day, while her hubby drives kids to school and makes meals.

 

What’s the pattern here?  It’s push push push …. crash; push, push, push …crash!  It’s speaks to her relationship with her husband and role allocation.  It speaks to her family of origin (I’ll bet this is how her mom did life), it speaks to what she is modeling for her kids (you only get to read in bed all day if you are sick).

 

With good self care, how could Jane’s pattern be different?  If she understood her socio-cultural conditioning, her deep emotional, physical, psychological, spiritual needs; she would have a solid foundation to clearly ask for what she needs from those in relationship with her.  For example, she could re-negotiate role responsibility with her husband, she could set up a car pool for driving to soccer etc.  Also, Jane realized that she had completed stopped her yoga, which she had previously really enjoyed.  Jane joined a yoga studio and also booked in a series of therapeutic massages.  Although the massage therapy was totally covered through Jane’s extended medical plan, she had been too busy to even explore her benefits!

 

By being clear on her own needs and ensuring these needs are met, Jane is giving her self great self care and therefore feels happier and more in balance.  Jane realized that she had been only doing things for herself once all the other ‘to dos’ were completed. Now she is at the top of the list and can care for others from a solid inner balanced core of emotional and spiritual strength!

 

Give it a try my beautiful friends!

 

In peace and mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

mindfulness life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Enjoy this special calming visual … with ‘blissings’ from Zoey 

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

 

 

 

Women ~ Life ~ Health: 7 Key Coaching Tips for a Life in Balance

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care “Enchantments” aka Healthy Life Coaching Tips for Wise Women

 Coaching Tips:

  1. Put yourself at the top of the priority list.
  2. Daily, check in and ask yourself, “What message is my body giving me?  What activities/food/beverages/exercise does my body need more of?  What does my body need less of?”  Listen to and act on the messages.
  3. Develop your own self-care routine.  Ask yourself, what do I need to do for myself on a daily, weekly, monthly, bi-annual and annual basis to really take care of myself.
  4. Plan a “retreat day” or weekend and craft our ideal self-nourishing time.
  5. Make a list of all the areas in your life that are energy drains and start eliminating the energy leaks.
  6. Decide which people in your life energize you and which people drain you and spend most of your time with the “energizers”!
  7. Spend time every day in solitude, doing nothing, no reading, no music.  Sit and appreciate your life and acknowledge yourself for all the great parts of you!  You are a positively outrageous wise woman!

 

“In solitude we give passionate attention to our lives, to our memories, to the details around us.”

–       Virginia Woolf

 

In your process of developing your self care routine, it may also be helpful to ask your self the following questions:

 

  1. What is my main focus for the season?  Is there a theme/picture/song which typifies this focus?
  2. What do I need to release and let go of?
  3. How can I simplify my life?
  4. Do I feel blocked in any area of my life?
  5. Are my priorites in order?
  6. Do I live life by my values.
  7. Is my life reactive or proactive?
  8. How are my primary relationships?
  9. How is my physical health?
  10. In what areas does my life flow effortlessly?

 

Take time for personal inquiry and self-reflection.  It helps to set aside a specific time each day to do this and to write down your answers,  Many women like to have a special and beautiful journal your answers.  If you feel you would benefit from support with this process, consider working with a life coach who will act as your cheerleader and partner in your personal development process.

 

In peace & mindfulness,

 

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

mindfulness life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Enjoy this special calming visual … with ‘blissings’ from Zoey 

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

 

Women ~ Life ~ Health: Inspiring Quote

Words of Wisdom from Women For Women

Inspiring Quote of the Day

Freedom is a bigger game than power. Power is about what you can control. Freedom is about what you can unleash.”

~ Harriet Rubin

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Women ~ Life ~ Health: The Importance of Family Gatherings

We had a wonderful day yesterday, re-connecting with extended family!

 

My ‘sister in love’ from Philadelphia was in town with her new guy and it was so fun to chat about the socio-cultural differences between Americans and  Canadians.

 

My husband is a ‘hybrid’ ie his mom was Canadian and his father American, and he lived in the US for the first 6 years of his life.  His older sister, Terry, was born in the US and grew up there most of her life and feels ‘American’, while my guy feels ‘Canadian’.  In my family, one brother moved to the US in the 1970’s and has lived and worked there ever since.  I say this to illustrate that we are certainly a big Canadian/American blended family.

 

During our get togethers, we often find ourselves discussing the differences between American and Canadians.  It is my personal opinion that Americans feel that ‘we’ are very similar and that Canadians feel that ‘we’ are very different.  We can have some very spirited conversations for sure!  Terry and Frank, being from the cosmopolitan East Coast, share many values with us West Coast Canadians, particularly in terms of gun control and politics.  We did find ourselves amazed at the differences in voting processes however.

 

Through out the evening, we were bathed in the warm glow of big family gatherings and are very happy to welcome to members to the ‘clan’.  We were also blessed with having ‘Uncle Don’ join us in his 86th year.

 

Enjoy your beautiful day my friends!

 

In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

personal life coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day


Women ~ Life ~ Health: Family Summer Vacations

Yes, it is possible to go on a fun sailing holiday with adult ‘kids’.

Our experience is that everyone reverts to childhood, even the parents (part of the time). We have hot cocoa and bedtime stories (the difference is they tell them to us) and tons of reading and candles and charades, lots of laughs and lots of hugs!

In case you are interested, I’m currently reading “Wild” by Cheryl Strayed for our book club discussion in September!

Enjoy your beautiful summer day and hug your kids extra lots.

In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

personal life coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
~ Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

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Women ~ Life ~ Health: Holistic Health & Life Coaching Tip of the Day

Holistic Health & Life Coaching Tip of the Day:

Tip:

Do one thing today that kind of scares you!

In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

personal life coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
~ Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

Women ~ Health ~ Life: Mindfulness Based Body Centered Life Coaching

I talk about my style of coaching as being a matrix, with the following concepts and pairs layered and angled: art & science, yin & yang, mind & heart, body & soul, broad & deep, eastern & western etc! I add to this blend my life experience and various forms of formal training to create a blend of coaching for the body, mind and soul.

Two wonderfully valuable resources that have informed my practice are listed below:

‘Wise Heart: A Guide to the Universal Teachings of Buddhist Psychology” by Jack Kornfield

And

“Body Centered Coaching: Using the Body as a Resource For Change” by Marlena Field, PCC, CPCC

Enjoy this magnificent day!

In peace and mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
leadership, executive & personal life coach

coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

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Women ~ Health ~ Life: A Summer Sailing Vacation Nourishes My Soul

I am slowly feeling re-energized and have been reminded how important it is to take time off!

Recently, and totally unconsciously, I got back on the treadmill, albeit, a ‘health’ treadmill. I over did ‘life’ by over scheduling and even though it was all activities I love, my energy was depleted.

Life coaches should know better, right?

Well, this life coach miscalculated. I felt the adrenalin rush from thinking I could do it all, from feeling almost invincible. My body feels different too, shallower breathing, and a kind of vibrating intensity.

So, now, I’m sitting on our sailboat, in Plumper Cove, off Keats Island, on the Sunshine Coast of BC, being gently rocked by the sea.

Ahhh, this is nourishment for my body and soul.

In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
leadership ~ executive ~ life coaching for women

coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

View from the boat at Keats Island

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