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Tsawwassen Southlands Proposal Letter of Support

Tsawwassen Residents

Please feel free to cut, paste, tweak and use the following letter to show support for the current Southlands development plan for Tsawwassen BC and send in an email to ‘mayor-council@delta.ca’

Zoey

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I would like voice my overwhelming support for the most recent plans for the above noted development. My family and I have been long time residents and owners in the Tsawwassen area, and as we are nearing retirement, would very much like to stay in the area. The ‘Plan’ seems very balanced, and gives back a large percentage of the land to the Corporation of Delta. We currently live near the Southlands lands, and have always enjoyed the area, but it is time for this development to finally move forward.

I know I speak for many of our Delta friends who are supportive of a balanced plan, like the one the Century Group is proposing, but could not be bothered to voice that support with yourselves. The silent majority is always the least vocal.

I urge you to move forward and approve this proposal, and keep families like ours in the Tsawwassen area.

Many thanks,

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Happy Chinese New Year Vancouver!

 

Happy Chinese New Year to all my friends and family!

zoey

life coach for wise women

life coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

Women ~ Life ~ Health: A Wise Quote About Women’s Empowerment

Truth!

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In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

values based leadership & life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Women ~ Life ~ Health: Inspirational Quote from a Wise Woman

Inspirational Quote by a Very Wise Woman

 

“I love to see a young girl ((  ‘or woman’ Zoey’s words )) go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.”

– Maya Angelou

 

Let’s grab those lapels lovely friends!

 

In peace and mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

mindfulness life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Enjoy this special calming visual … with ‘blissings’ from Zoey

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
~ Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

Women ~ Life ~ Health: Monday Mornings Back To Work

I needed a little help getting going this Monday morning when my alarm went off at 5:15 am and then I thought of all the parents and athletes from the Olympics who have all likely had many, many early mornings!

I thought too of folks single parenting and those who do runs and bike rides and paddles all for cancer research.

So, here I am, with runners on, heading out for a run and then a wonderful full week of work!

I am motivated by others dedication and the great work we are currently doing in our prenatal health coaching and yoga with vulnerable pregnant moms!

Have a fabulous day beautiful wise women!

In peace and mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

mindfulness life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Enjoy this special calming visual … with ‘blissings’ from Zoey

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
~ Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

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Women ~ Life ~ Health: Self-Care is not Selfish aka a Living a Life in Balance

In my last blog post, I listed 7 key life coaching tips or words of wisdom,  for help in obtaining and living a ‘life in balance’ for women.

 

Tip # 1 is – Put yourself at the top of the list of priorities!

 

Many women I work with say, “Hey, I couldn’t do this, that would be selfish.  What about my kids?  What about my work? My family?”.

 

The intention with this ‘life coaching tip’ isn’t that you forget about your caring and your relationships.  Rather, it is taking a slightly different look at life and life beliefs.

 

In our current culture, we are still feeling the influence of ‘agricultural society values’ from yesteryear, where physical strength and pregnancy/birthing were two key factors in identifying roles.  Add in old time Christian teaching that ‘the man is the head of the household’ and the end result is that without personal reflection and inquiry, many women fall into a ‘victim’ role in the family and community, without even knowing it.

 

Self care is really about knowing yourself well.  Knowing what your emotional and physical needs are, what your values are, when you feel taken advantage of, when you feel overwhelmed, when you feel fully nourished, balanced and fulfilled.

 

Here’s an example…. Jane is a working mom, trying to balance making lunches, driving to school and soccer practice, work, groceries, spending time with her guy, seeing her parents … you get the picture!  She’s in survival mode, always on the brink of overwhelm.  Every 6 to 8 weeks though, she  gets sick with a cold type illness and needs to ‘crash’ for a few days.  Though she feels guilty for missing work, she kind of relishes the ‘sick days’ as she gets cared for with things like ‘hot tea in bed’ and can stay home in bed and read all day, while her hubby drives kids to school and makes meals.

 

What’s the pattern here?  It’s push push push …. crash; push, push, push …crash!  It’s speaks to her relationship with her husband and role allocation.  It speaks to her family of origin (I’ll bet this is how her mom did life), it speaks to what she is modeling for her kids (you only get to read in bed all day if you are sick).

 

With good self care, how could Jane’s pattern be different?  If she understood her socio-cultural conditioning, her deep emotional, physical, psychological, spiritual needs; she would have a solid foundation to clearly ask for what she needs from those in relationship with her.  For example, she could re-negotiate role responsibility with her husband, she could set up a car pool for driving to soccer etc.  Also, Jane realized that she had completed stopped her yoga, which she had previously really enjoyed.  Jane joined a yoga studio and also booked in a series of therapeutic massages.  Although the massage therapy was totally covered through Jane’s extended medical plan, she had been too busy to even explore her benefits!

 

By being clear on her own needs and ensuring these needs are met, Jane is giving her self great self care and therefore feels happier and more in balance.  Jane realized that she had been only doing things for herself once all the other ‘to dos’ were completed. Now she is at the top of the list and can care for others from a solid inner balanced core of emotional and spiritual strength!

 

Give it a try my beautiful friends!

 

In peace and mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

mindfulness life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Enjoy this special calming visual … with ‘blissings’ from Zoey 

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

 

 

 

Women ~ Life ~ Health: Inspiring Quote

Words of Wisdom from Women For Women

Inspiring Quote of the Day

Freedom is a bigger game than power. Power is about what you can control. Freedom is about what you can unleash.”

~ Harriet Rubin

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Women ~ Life ~ Health: The Importance of Family Gatherings

We had a wonderful day yesterday, re-connecting with extended family!

 

My ‘sister in love’ from Philadelphia was in town with her new guy and it was so fun to chat about the socio-cultural differences between Americans and  Canadians.

 

My husband is a ‘hybrid’ ie his mom was Canadian and his father American, and he lived in the US for the first 6 years of his life.  His older sister, Terry, was born in the US and grew up there most of her life and feels ‘American’, while my guy feels ‘Canadian’.  In my family, one brother moved to the US in the 1970’s and has lived and worked there ever since.  I say this to illustrate that we are certainly a big Canadian/American blended family.

 

During our get togethers, we often find ourselves discussing the differences between American and Canadians.  It is my personal opinion that Americans feel that ‘we’ are very similar and that Canadians feel that ‘we’ are very different.  We can have some very spirited conversations for sure!  Terry and Frank, being from the cosmopolitan East Coast, share many values with us West Coast Canadians, particularly in terms of gun control and politics.  We did find ourselves amazed at the differences in voting processes however.

 

Through out the evening, we were bathed in the warm glow of big family gatherings and are very happy to welcome to members to the ‘clan’.  We were also blessed with having ‘Uncle Don’ join us in his 86th year.

 

Enjoy your beautiful day my friends!

 

In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

personal life coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day


Women ~ Health ~ Life: Re-Invigorating The Powerful Wise Woman Archetype

In many cultures and areas of the world, elder women are respected for their wisdom and life experience. Their aged beauty shines brightly and a depth of spirit is often evident.

In our modern North American ‘youth obsessed’ culture, elder women, and being one myself, seem to be made invisible.

Having never really experienced discrimination (other than subtle gender discrimination), being on the receiving end of ageism is quite an interesting experience and very humbling. To my surprise, it feels like it comes more from young women than from young men, however this opinion could be slightly skewed due to the company I keep.

My life lessons about aging include learning to be gracious in my age and to increasingly honor and respect those older and wiser than I!

So, I shall do my part to re-invigorate the powerful, beautiful, older, wise woman archetype and model respect of those who have walked many years on this dusty road of life.

In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
leadership ~ executive ~ life coach for women

leadership & life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

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Women ~ Health ~ Life: Mindfulness Based Body Centered Life Coaching

I talk about my style of coaching as being a matrix, with the following concepts and pairs layered and angled: art & science, yin & yang, mind & heart, body & soul, broad & deep, eastern & western etc! I add to this blend my life experience and various forms of formal training to create a blend of coaching for the body, mind and soul.

Two wonderfully valuable resources that have informed my practice are listed below:

‘Wise Heart: A Guide to the Universal Teachings of Buddhist Psychology” by Jack Kornfield

And

“Body Centered Coaching: Using the Body as a Resource For Change” by Marlena Field, PCC, CPCC

Enjoy this magnificent day!

In peace and mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
leadership, executive & personal life coach

coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

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