image description

Archive for the ‘women and self care’ Category

7 Self Care Tips for the Summer Solstice

Health Tips for Women

Health and Wellness Tips

Why have personal self care tips and make self care a priority?

If you don’t take care of yourself, how can you care for others most important to you? How can you truly enjoy your activities, how can you fully rest and rejuvenate and enjoy the best of the wonderful Summer energy?

But isn’t self care selfish? I often hear this from my coaching clients. No, I say emphatically, self care is self-less as it is truly the first step to living an inspired and fulfilling life! Further, with the changing of the seasons, your self care routine should vary as the ancient traditions acknowledged. If you would like help with this, I would love to be your support partner, learn more about working with a life coach here.

Try out these self care tips to flow with the energy of the Summer Solstice and stay tuned for more information about how to infuse your “self care routine” with more “self compassion”:

7 Self Care Tips for the Summer Solstice:

  1. Put yourself at the top of the priority list.
  2. Daily, check in and ask yourself, “What message is my body giving me?  What activities/food/beverages/exercise does my body need more of this season?  What does my body need less of?”  Listen to and act on the messages.
  3. Develop your own self-care routine.  Ask yourself, what do I need to do for myself on a daily, weekly and monthly basis to really take care of myself this summer?
  4. Plan a “retreat day” or weekend, remember a summer activity you loved from your past and craft your ideal self-nourishing time around that activity.
  5. Make a list of all the areas in your life that are energy drains and start eliminating the energy leaks.
  6. Decide which people in your life energize you and which people drain you and spend most of your time with the “energizers”!
  7. Spend time every day in nature, in solitude, doing nothing, no reading, no music.  Sink into the feeling of appreciation, gratitude and feel nourished by the vibrant and verdant energy around you!

Around the end of August and early September, you may feel your energy and interest start to shift indicating a need to re-evaluate and re-vise your self care tips and routine and this would be a perfect time to do that. You may find the Life Crafter 2017 helpful!

“In solitude we give passionate attention to our lives, to our memories, to the details around us.”

–       Virginia Woolf

 

Dare To Dream | Self Coaching Tip

The Importance of Dreams

Allowing yourself the freedom,  time and ‘white space’ to dream is vitally important to truly creating the life you want. Dreams become the vital ‘juicy’ energy that support exciting change and forward movement.

This process does not need to be fancy or require much preparation or supplies (although adding in a vision board can be a lot of fun); you can simply ask yourself the following question:  If there were no restrictions of any kind, what would I do with my life in the next 6 months/ one year/5 years etc. Allow yourself to dream and dream big.

Dreaming is free, it’s fun and no one but you needs to be involved. The beauty of dreams is that you get to change them too because they belong to you! Taking any boundaries or structure off dreaming has been called ‘blue sky dreaming’ because there is nothing but the big blue sky to restrict you. Often dreaming leads to new ideas and can catalyse creativity and innovation.

Have fun with this my friends, it’s meant to be enjoyable.

The Importance of Personal Connection

 

The Importance of Personal Connection

I lost my mojo, my personal connection with my deep self essence for a few years. Upon reflection, it feels like walking out of a desert and seeing an oasis in the near distance. Shimmering, energizing and oh so nourishing, my essence draws me closer.

The reasons for the disconnect are many, multi-layered and complicated.

I strongly believe the period of ‘disconnect’ served an important purpose. In archetypal terms, I was doing deep ‘soul work’. I certainly smoothed out some rough edges of my ego.

The power of personal awareness and connection is one of the foundational tenets of the personal development movement and a thread woven throughout coaching. I can share that it sure feels great to be ‘finding myself again’ and I can’t wait to be writing more.

My personal spiritual connection has always been the anchor that keeps me grounded and enlivened. While in the past few years, I had my spiritual beliefs, the strong and steady spiritual connection had dimmed, it’s now back!

Wishing the highest and best for you today!

Women | Life | Wisdom: The Importance of Self Compassion

Mindful Self Compassion

I recently re-connected with a dear friend and former colleague. It felt fabulous. Not only to resume the friendship and relive memories of early professional life but to hear about the exciting work she and another friend and colleague are doing in the area of ‘Mindful Self Compassion’.

Life Coaches talk about the concepts of ‘self care’, ‘life balance’ and ‘mindfulness’. Mindful Self Compassion takes this personal exploration deeper in a gentle way, allowing for one to treat ones self in the same way one would treat a dear friend.

In our crazy world today, learning deeper Self Compassion leading to radiating broader compassion, can only be a good thing.

I look forward to learning and sharing more.

Zoey

Taking A Look At My Own Stuff: Reactivity

Reactivity

Following from my previous post about my knees hitting the floor, I’m still recovering from my fall and have admitted to myself that yes, in fact, my wrist is still wonky, so off I go to the Drs this pm. Not only that but my whole right side is still very sore in spite of epsom salts baths and ‘taking it easy’. Taking a metaphoric look at the meaning of injuring my right side is the topic for a whole other series of posts!

Perhaps I was a touch reactive when yet again, this time by my husband and in the presence of my 93 year old father who in fact does have a walker, my ‘needing a walker’ was brought up in jest.

Pema Chodron writes about her start as the ‘head person’ at the Buddhist Monastery in Nova Scotia, where she came face to face with her own stuff. I still enjoy reading her description of doing the dishes and being angry at the person who never did their share and re-read this portion frequently.

Down there on the pavement, I was face to face with ‘my stuff’; my flash temper,  my reactivity, hypocrisy, attachments, cravings, judgements. If taking a tumble wasn’t enough, I have my family to help   keep me humble.

Yes, our real spiritual work is allowing ourselves to accept our darkness, our reactivity, our ‘warts’, our areas of dissonance, not only accept but make friends with, and have compassion for. Ah, and in this, there is peace!

in love and peace,

zoey

When Your Knees Hit The Floor: For Real

I posted the following quote on FB the other day, never thinking I would literally go through it.

Yup, it happened.

“Something very beautiful happens to people when their world has fallen apart: 

a humility, a nobility, a higher intelligence emerges at just the point when our knees hit the floor.”

~ Marianne Williamson

So, I’m out for my walk yesterday, still processing all the recent health diagnosis that are too frightfully boring and ‘chronic’  and ‘rare” and ‘serious’ feeling to go in to and walking daily is what I love but also part of my ‘healthy living plan” (Oh God, Ive become one of those older people) and thinking about which car was in the driveway while looking ahead at said driveway and not on the ground and I turned an ankle on a stone perfectly round like a squash ball and down I went, on my knees and arm and wrist and shoulder and holy  F*%K, it hurt like the be jeesus. Luckily I carry my iPhone with me, so I can measure my peak heart rate so I called middle daughter to help and of course she did (daughter number one got in a comment about a walker before I told her where to put her that nonsense) and one of them had a comment about me not wearing my glasses.

This quote now makes so much more sense, Marianne was out for a walk without her glasses and tripped and fell!

All joking aside, it is true; as I lay there in considerable physical and emotional pain, of being ill, of getting older, of being in a failing marriage, of being one of those people I said I would never become (how did I think I could avoid health issues?), something in me let go, released, shook free and I don’t know that I feel noble, however, my knees certainly hit the floor, in this case pavement, I do feel humble and like my world has fallen apart and I guess I can see a glimmer of beauty and a little bubble of a giggle as I listen to my daughter with the dry sardonic wit describe the event to her sisters (‘yeh, I had to help her up, she was a mess, she was wailing like a newborn baby’, which we will have soon in the family) and in all of this perhaps the beauty is that of authentic raw vulnerability. I’m just like everybody else, I feel, I hurt, I need help and in that I feel compassion, I feel universal pain, I feel universal hurt, I feel universal compassion. We are all the same and there’s the beauty.

namaste

 

 

Sacred Sunday: Words of Wisdom

A Beautiful Quote:

“You hold in your hand an invitation:

To remember the transforming power of forgiveness
and loving kindness.

To remember that no matter where you are and what you face, within your heart,

peace is possible.”

~ Jack Kornfield

Daily Cup of Life Coaching & Inspiration: Where Is Your ‘Just Enough’ Place?

Daily Cup of Coaching & Inspiration: Where Is Your ‘Just Enough’ Place? 

The concept of ‘just enough’ can be applied to every area of one’s life.  I tend towards being excessive, which, in the past,  has gotten me into trouble with my drinking, food intake, relationships, spending for example.

Practicing YogaI also have done the yo yo of ‘dieting’, ‘budgets’, abstinence, again all the ‘excess of deprivation’.

The concept I have become calm and settled with is the concept of ‘just enough’. Just enough food for me to feel satiated but not stuffed; just enough activity for me to feel energized but not fatigued; just enough sleep for me to feel rested but not groggy and it can go on.

Where does my pattern of ‘excess’ originate? The complexities of my life can be distilled to simply answer, the ‘dichotomy of abandonment and attachment’, leaving me with a deep soul longing, that can only be filled internally through spiritual practice.

As I meditate and practice all eight limbs of a spiritual yoga practice, my ‘just enough place’ is much easier to find. How about yours?

peace,

zoey

 

Quote of the Day: Pema Chodron

 

 

“If we learn to open our hearts, everyone,  

including the people who drive us crazy,

can be our teacher.”

 

~ Pema Chodron

 

Sabbatical Is Over: Words and Phrases to Permanently Retire

So, after about 5 months of health issues and brain fog, I’m back to reading, feeling, opinions (lightly held) and writing and vote that the following words/phrases be retired forever:

1. Skinny

2. Yummy Mummy

3. Baby Bump

4. Chick Flicks

5. Vajayjay

My reasons are coming at a later date.

Follow Me On The Web!