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Conversations That Matter – Conversational Intelligence

Conversations That Matter – Conversational Intelligence

We have had a lot of deep and powerful conversations in our home this weekend and early week, discussions that matter. It’s been quite the weekend and I find myself waking up again, even this Wednesday  morning feeling drained, with my heart broken, awash with emotion. Emotions that bounce around between sadness to hopelessness to incredulousness to patriotism and back to sadness, then again to hope as I see my grandson.

In my almost 60 years, I have never experienced such observable racism and xenophobic actions so frequently displayed and with such chilling and heart breaking consequences.

I am so proud to be Canadian and although my knowledge of Canadian political ideology has needed some ‘refreshing’, seeing the leaders of all political parties, all faiths and Canadians all across the country come together to support the families of the Quebec City terrorist attack victims brings tears to my eyes. It is in acts of ‘coming together’ in spite of differences, to talk from a place of ‘curiosity and inquiry’ that ultimately elevates thought and connect hearts.

We are in times of world political upheaval and uncertainty. We are all being challenged to move beyond the construct of ‘competition’, ‘either/or, ‘winner/loser’ to the constructs of community, ‘we’ and ‘both/and’ in both our personal and professional lives. In my opinion as we engage in powerful and intentional conversations anchored in higher paradoxical thinking, we elevate our minds, connect our hearts and show up in a different way, in compassion and empathy, with a fierce resolve to forward movement but in a ‘new way’.

For me, the discussions occurred in my family, primarily with my daughters,  all three of whom have a slightly different perspective and are mighty skilled at sharing it! Friends and the friendship relationship can enhance your journey and provide a wonderful environment for deeper exploration and learning as well as just plain fun!

Here are three ways to make sure you have powerful conversations:

  1. Make eye contact
  2. Listen really well, give pause, don’t interupt
  3. Speak from your heart

Enjoy your day my friends and remember that the world is truly filled with good people and we get to choose who we engage with and how deeply we do this!

namaste,

zoey

Daily Self Care | Mindfulness, Meditation, Yoga

 

Your Morning Cup of Self Care

So, many women I know feel that they don’t have time for mindfulness meditation and yoga first thing in the morning, yet, even ten minutes directed to these self care activites can provide a positive start to your day and elevate your emotional health and mood.

Set a timer and do five minutes of meditation. I like using Pinterest for great visuals and instructions. I also like the quote that 99% of meditation is showing up!

Then, pick three yoga postures or stretches and hold each one for one minute and do one minute on shivasana to complete your self care routine for the morning. Another way to incorporate the yoga is to create a simple flow of a few standing postures and do these in sequence.

Learn about about simple mindfulness practices and use these during the day to stay ‘grounded’ in the moment.

Starting your day with the intention of directing loving self compassion your own way is the best self care there is!

Inspiring Women: Vancouver Women’s March

Women’s March, Vancouver women come together in powerful solidarity!

A collage of a powerful and inspiring day!

It was a great day for the Women’s March when one of my three daughters and I joined thousands of other women, men, girls and boys and headed down to Jack Poole Plaza. I was struck by the diversity in ages and also by the sense of joi de vivre from the lively and respectful crowd participating in the Women’s March of Solidarity in Vancouver.

I ran into many friends from the yoga and coaching communities as well as friends from previous work environments. It felt like a homecoming!

I left feeling jazzed, exhilarated and exhausted.

It seems like the real work begins now, that of maintaining and living the principles of unity, hope, inclusiveness and mutual respect.

Onward. Ho. In Love.

 

Women | Life | Wisdom: The Importance of Self Compassion

Mindful Self Compassion

I recently re-connected with a dear friend and former colleague. It felt fabulous. Not only to resume the friendship and relive memories of early professional life but to hear about the exciting work she and another friend and colleague are doing in the area of ‘Mindful Self Compassion’.

Life Coaches talk about the concepts of ‘self care’, ‘life balance’ and ‘mindfulness’. Mindful Self Compassion takes this personal exploration deeper in a gentle way, allowing for one to treat ones self in the same way one would treat a dear friend.

In our crazy world today, learning deeper Self Compassion leading to radiating broader compassion, can only be a good thing.

I look forward to learning and sharing more.

Zoey

Celebrating a 21 Year ‘Sobriety Cake’

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Celebrating Sobriety

Its a tradition in the recovery world to celebrate the anniversary of one’s ‘sobriety’ with a cake, like a birthday or anniversary.

I’m excited to say that I have been sober for 21 years today.

I don’t believe I have written much about the years immediately preceding July 2, 1994, that’s for another time, however, I say a prayer of thanks every morning I wake up sober and am incredibly grateful for the deep learning and growth my recovery has given me. I am humbled by and have such respect for anyone working through an addiction. Take it easy my friends.

love and light

zoey

Taking A Look At My Own Stuff: Reactivity

Reactivity

Following from my previous post about my knees hitting the floor, I’m still recovering from my fall and have admitted to myself that yes, in fact, my wrist is still wonky, so off I go to the Drs this pm. Not only that but my whole right side is still very sore in spite of epsom salts baths and ‘taking it easy’. Taking a metaphoric look at the meaning of injuring my right side is the topic for a whole other series of posts!

Perhaps I was a touch reactive when yet again, this time by my husband and in the presence of my 93 year old father who in fact does have a walker, my ‘needing a walker’ was brought up in jest.

Pema Chodron writes about her start as the ‘head person’ at the Buddhist Monastery in Nova Scotia, where she came face to face with her own stuff. I still enjoy reading her description of doing the dishes and being angry at the person who never did their share and re-read this portion frequently.

Down there on the pavement, I was face to face with ‘my stuff’; my flash temper,  my reactivity, hypocrisy, attachments, cravings, judgements. If taking a tumble wasn’t enough, I have my family to help   keep me humble.

Yes, our real spiritual work is allowing ourselves to accept our darkness, our reactivity, our ‘warts’, our areas of dissonance, not only accept but make friends with, and have compassion for. Ah, and in this, there is peace!

in love and peace,

zoey

When Your Knees Hit The Floor: For Real

I posted the following quote on FB the other day, never thinking I would literally go through it.

Yup, it happened.

“Something very beautiful happens to people when their world has fallen apart: 

a humility, a nobility, a higher intelligence emerges at just the point when our knees hit the floor.”

~ Marianne Williamson

So, I’m out for my walk yesterday, still processing all the recent health diagnosis that are too frightfully boring and ‘chronic’  and ‘rare” and ‘serious’ feeling to go in to and walking daily is what I love but also part of my ‘healthy living plan” (Oh God, Ive become one of those older people) and thinking about which car was in the driveway while looking ahead at said driveway and not on the ground and I turned an ankle on a stone perfectly round like a squash ball and down I went, on my knees and arm and wrist and shoulder and holy  F*%K, it hurt like the be jeesus. Luckily I carry my iPhone with me, so I can measure my peak heart rate so I called middle daughter to help and of course she did (daughter number one got in a comment about a walker before I told her where to put her that nonsense) and one of them had a comment about me not wearing my glasses.

This quote now makes so much more sense, Marianne was out for a walk without her glasses and tripped and fell!

All joking aside, it is true; as I lay there in considerable physical and emotional pain, of being ill, of getting older, of being in a failing marriage, of being one of those people I said I would never become (how did I think I could avoid health issues?), something in me let go, released, shook free and I don’t know that I feel noble, however, my knees certainly hit the floor, in this case pavement, I do feel humble and like my world has fallen apart and I guess I can see a glimmer of beauty and a little bubble of a giggle as I listen to my daughter with the dry sardonic wit describe the event to her sisters (‘yeh, I had to help her up, she was a mess, she was wailing like a newborn baby’, which we will have soon in the family) and in all of this perhaps the beauty is that of authentic raw vulnerability. I’m just like everybody else, I feel, I hurt, I need help and in that I feel compassion, I feel universal pain, I feel universal hurt, I feel universal compassion. We are all the same and there’s the beauty.

namaste

 

 

Sacred Sunday: Words of Wisdom

A Beautiful Quote:

“You hold in your hand an invitation:

To remember the transforming power of forgiveness
and loving kindness.

To remember that no matter where you are and what you face, within your heart,

peace is possible.”

~ Jack Kornfield

Women | Life | Wisdom: Dreaming

Do you believe that we can communicate through dreams?

I am very curious about this and after an unbelievably wonderful dream last night about a friend from university, I would like to believe we do.

I know there are stories about this, about people sharing dreams, non local ways of knowing and the like. Rupert Sheldrake writes about these ideas and ancient tradition keepers would say ‘of course we do’.

I am grateful for my wonderful dream and am resting in the feelings of being loved and cherished.

Enjoy your day my friend!

zoey

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Women | Life | Health: Embrace the Day

woman embracing life

 

 

Happy Day to you and oh, what a fabulous day it is!

What are three things you are grateful for today?  And go…

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mindfully,

zoey

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