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Life Balance 3 Tips to Improve Your Holistic Health

Building on the theme from recent posts about summer energy, poetry and living in alignment with nature and her cycles, let’s weave in some of the teachings of the Tao Te Ching as a foundational theme in creating life balance.

Being brought up in a Western family spiritually grounded in Christianity, I wasn’t exposed to the Tao until my 30’s while on a spiritual quest following a family crisis. Do you find that crises often lead to spiritual growth? It was after reading The Life of Pi by Yann Martel that I decided to go deeper with the learning about the Tao. This may be a funny way to deepen learning, ie from a very enjoyable novel, however it worked for me! Since that time, the books that have helped my western mind understand the Tao have been ‘The Tao Te Ching of Lao Tzu’ translated by Brian Browne Walker, ‘Change Your Thoughts-Change Your Life: Living The Wisdom of the Tao’ by Wayne Dyer and ‘A Thousand Names For Joy: Living in Harmony With The Way Things Are’ by Byron Katie.

Byron Katie’s book I found to be particularly powerful.

As a life coach and executive/leadership coach, the women I work with are often challenged to find a balance or equilibrium between making conscious and strategic changes on the one hand and allowing the gentle flow of life on the other hand. Another way to describe this dynamic is seeing the balance between striving towards change and being drawn towards your future. The Tao seems to be very helpful for the second part of this equation. The Tao reminds us that life is like water, it resides in the low places, over time it carves out deep valleys and can move mountains, and it is hard to grasp. I have found that the more I try to figure the Tao out, the more complex it becomes and if I allow my entire self to be open to it, I ‘grasp’ it more easily. So, the life balance learning is about honouring the Tao of life and the Tao of you.

Life Balance Tips Using the Tao, remember the second part of the equation above, :

1. Read something about the Tao Te Ching, you can pick one of the books above or simply do a quick search on the internet.

2. Ask yourself how your life is or isn’t like the Tao?

3. One of the dominant themes of the Tao is about water and flow, spend lots of time in the water (for fun) and ask yourself what you feel drawn towards? Interesting imagery is to imagine that ‘life’ is a gently flowing river and you are floating down in a beautiful kayak, can it truly be this effortless? Might you run up into a log jam or two? Might the current of the river move you beyond it? Play with this image and sink into the energy of the Tao to bring more balance to your life.

Inspirational Quote Your Wild and Precious Life

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Wild and Precious Flowers

One of my favourite poets is Mary Oliver and on this summer day her fabulous poem is a luscious read. I can actually hear the grasshoppers and feel the warmth of the sun on my skin while reading. As a life coach, I particularly love the last sentence about ‘your wild and precious life’ as it is a wonderfully inspiring quote and a great coaching question … :

The Summer Day

Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean–
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down–
who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.
I don’t know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
With your one wild and precious life?

By Mary Oliver

If you feel so inspired, try out some of these summer self care tips to enhance and elevate your ‘wild and precious life!

 

The Importance of Personal Connection

 

The Importance of Personal Connection

I lost my mojo, my personal connection with my deep self essence for a few years. Upon reflection, it feels like walking out of a desert and seeing an oasis in the near distance. Shimmering, energizing and oh so nourishing, my essence draws me closer.

The reasons for the disconnect are many, multi-layered and complicated.

I strongly believe the period of ‘disconnect’ served an important purpose. In archetypal terms, I was doing deep ‘soul work’. I certainly smoothed out some rough edges of my ego.

The power of personal awareness and connection is one of the foundational tenets of the personal development movement and a thread woven throughout coaching. I can share that it sure feels great to be ‘finding myself again’ and I can’t wait to be writing more.

My personal spiritual connection has always been the anchor that keeps me grounded and enlivened. While in the past few years, I had my spiritual beliefs, the strong and steady spiritual connection had dimmed, it’s now back!

Wishing the highest and best for you today!

Conversations That Matter – Conversational Intelligence

Conversations That Matter – Conversational Intelligence

We have had a lot of deep and powerful conversations in our home this weekend and early week, discussions that matter. It’s been quite the weekend and I find myself waking up again, even this Wednesday  morning feeling drained, with my heart broken, awash with emotion. Emotions that bounce around between sadness to hopelessness to incredulousness to patriotism and back to sadness, then again to hope as I see my grandson.

In my almost 60 years, I have never experienced such observable racism and xenophobic actions so frequently displayed and with such chilling and heart breaking consequences.

I am so proud to be Canadian and although my knowledge of Canadian political ideology has needed some ‘refreshing’, seeing the leaders of all political parties, all faiths and Canadians all across the country come together to support the families of the Quebec City terrorist attack victims brings tears to my eyes. It is in acts of ‘coming together’ in spite of differences, to talk from a place of ‘curiosity and inquiry’ that ultimately elevates thought and connect hearts.

We are in times of world political upheaval and uncertainty. We are all being challenged to move beyond the construct of ‘competition’, ‘either/or, ‘winner/loser’ to the constructs of community, ‘we’ and ‘both/and’ in both our personal and professional lives. In my opinion as we engage in powerful and intentional conversations anchored in higher paradoxical thinking, we elevate our minds, connect our hearts and show up in a different way, in compassion and empathy, with a fierce resolve to forward movement but in a ‘new way’.

For me, the discussions occurred in my family, primarily with my daughters,  all three of whom have a slightly different perspective and are mighty skilled at sharing it! Friends and the friendship relationship can enhance your journey and provide a wonderful environment for deeper exploration and learning as well as just plain fun!

Here are three ways to make sure you have powerful conversations:

  1. Make eye contact
  2. Listen really well, give pause, don’t interupt
  3. Speak from your heart

Enjoy your day my friends and remember that the world is truly filled with good people and we get to choose who we engage with and how deeply we do this!

namaste,

zoey

Word Power – Word of the Day: Resiliency

Word of the Day: Resiliency

I just read a great quote about failure and resiliency on Twitter, it was something about how you haven’t actually failed until you stay down after a fall.

How many of you have failed at something or had a less than stellar work or life experience? It feels awful right? Yup, I’ve been there too!

In life we are taught that failure is to be avoided at all costs. Even the word ‘failure’ is emotionally charged and can trigger feelings such as shame and anxiety. I have heard it said that as parents we need to teach our kids to ‘fail better’ and this brought a smile to my face.

Research shows though, that tough times really do make you stronger. The flip side of failure is resiliency. Developing resiliency is a key indicator of a deeper sense of life fulfillment and meaning. Whether it’s in the area of personal growth or professional leadership skill development, having resilience, the ability to learn from all manner of experiences is a trait common to successful people.

Yes, we will all fall. It’s what we chose to do after that makes the difference!

Women | Life | Wisdom: The Importance of Self Compassion

Mindful Self Compassion

I recently re-connected with a dear friend and former colleague. It felt fabulous. Not only to resume the friendship and relive memories of early professional life but to hear about the exciting work she and another friend and colleague are doing in the area of ‘Mindful Self Compassion’.

Life Coaches talk about the concepts of ‘self care’, ‘life balance’ and ‘mindfulness’. Mindful Self Compassion takes this personal exploration deeper in a gentle way, allowing for one to treat ones self in the same way one would treat a dear friend.

In our crazy world today, learning deeper Self Compassion leading to radiating broader compassion, can only be a good thing.

I look forward to learning and sharing more.

Zoey

Topaz Lotus Inspired Living: Vancouver Yoga Teacher Training at Open Door Yoga

Vancouver Yoga Teacher Training: Open Door Yoga Vancouver

 

I recently completed my 200 hour hatha yoga teacher training at Open Door Yoga in Vancouver and I highly recommend this intense and incredibly well designed program!

With a conveniently designed program of meeting once per week on either a Saturday or Sunday, this course can easily fit into most schedules.

The quality of the instruction, I found to be exceptional.  As a adult learner, I often find myself bored to tears in many seminars and courses.  Not so, with the Open Door Yoga Teacher Training.  With a range of instructors and subjects, and utilizing a variety of multi-sensorial teaching methodologies, the program was transformational.

I started the program with the intention to deepen my personal practice and to add to my skills as a yoga instructor.  I finished the program with these goals met and as a somewhat different person.  I’m unable to find words to describe the difference, I just ‘feel’ deeper and broader and with real concrete something – the practice of yoga, to ground me daily.

For my next training, I plan to do the “Restorative Yoga” teacher training at Yogacara in August.

in peace & mindfulness,

zoey

health coach for wise women

yoga &  healthy life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Women ~ Life ~ Health: May We All Be Filled with Loving Kindness

Topaz Lotus Living

On this wonderful Sunday before Valentines Day, here is a thought for the day:

May we all be filled with loving kindness

May we all be well

May we all be peaceful and at ease

May we all be happy

 

Enjoy your day my friends!

 

zoey

life coach for wise women

life coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

Women | Health | Life: Holistic Health, Pregnancy & Birth

End of Day 5 of prenatal yoga teacher training and I am learning so much, particularly about my own thoughts and patterns of behavior.

I am able to say that I have shifted some long held ways of being and truly feel that a sense of ‘grace’ and gentle kindness is evolving in my life.

I am I credibly thankful in so many ways for this training. In addition to the yoga postures, I have had the opportunity to distill my beliefs about a spiritual, mindful and conscious approach to pregnancy, birth and parenting!

More to come …

In peace and mindfulness,

namaste

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
life ~ leadership ~ executive coach

Life & leadership coaching to set your heart in fire & soothe your soul!

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Women | Life | Writing: Writer’s Block Diminishing!

I  guess we all go through it, you know, those times where the creative juices need fermenting and there is no outward expression!

My writer’s/bloggers block is diminishing!  While this is happening, am excited to feature a few guest bloggers!  Let me know if you are interested.

I am happy to report that my creativity and love for coaching are joyfully high!

More to come …

In peace & mindfulness

namaste

Zoey

Life ~ Leadership ~ Executive Coach for Women

Coaching to set your heart on fire &’soothe your soul!

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