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Taking A Look At My Own Stuff: Reactivity

Reactivity

Following from my previous post about my knees hitting the floor, I’m still recovering from my fall and have admitted to myself that yes, in fact, my wrist is still wonky, so off I go to the Drs this pm. Not only that but my whole right side is still very sore in spite of epsom salts baths and ‘taking it easy’. Taking a metaphoric look at the meaning of injuring my right side is the topic for a whole other series of posts!

Perhaps I was a touch reactive when yet again, this time by my husband and in the presence of my 93 year old father who in fact does have a walker, my ‘needing a walker’ was brought up in jest.

Pema Chodron writes about her start as the ‘head person’ at the Buddhist Monastery in Nova Scotia, where she came face to face with her own stuff. I still enjoy reading her description of doing the dishes and being angry at the person who never did their share and re-read this portion frequently.

Down there on the pavement, I was face to face with ‘my stuff’; my flash temper,  my reactivity, hypocrisy, attachments, cravings, judgements. If taking a tumble wasn’t enough, I have my family to help   keep me humble.

Yes, our real spiritual work is allowing ourselves to accept our darkness, our reactivity, our ‘warts’, our areas of dissonance, not only accept but make friends with, and have compassion for. Ah, and in this, there is peace!

in love and peace,

zoey

Women ~ Health ~ Wisdom: Personal Affirmations for the Day

Topaz Lotus Living: Personal Affirmations for Balanced Living

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” I am strong”

“I am well”

“I am supported”

“I am affirmed”

“I am healthy in mind, body and spirit”

“I am in tune with my physical needs and rhythms”

“I am a wonderful creator of my own experience”

“I let go of any thoughts that are not  in service to the highest and best of all concerned”

“I am filled with loving kindness”

 

Have a fabulous day!

in peace & mindfulness,

zoey

life coach for wise women

life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul

Holistic Health Tip & Inspiring Quote of the Day!

Topaz Lotus Living: Holistic Health Tip of the Day!

Holistic Health Quote:

‘Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.’

~ World Health Organization, 1948

Healthy Life Tip:

Start a ‘body centered’ practice, not for just the purpose of exercise but in addition, for the purpose of ‘getting back into your body’ or ‘inhabiting your body more fully’.

You may wish to start and continue on a regular basis a practice like yoga, chi gong or tai chi.  Or, you may choose to start your day with a body scan or check in with your body through out the day to ‘hear your body’s messages’.

Finish your practice with mindfulness meditation.

 

Enjoy your day my friends.

 

zoey

life coach for wise women

life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul

 

Love Quotes, Valentines Day and Birthdays!

Topaz Lotus Living: Love Quotes

 

valentines day

 

It’s a special week for all and for our family!

February 14th is Valentines Day, the day of Love!

February 13th is our second daughter’s birthday and is also filled with love.

 

This time of year, I think of some favorite ‘love quotes’ like:

‘Love makes the world go round’

‘All you need is love’

‘I’m a lover not a fighter’

‘And, the greatest of these is love’

 

People do wild and wonderful things in the name of ‘love’ and this week, I am sending all of you, those I know and those I don’t yet know tons of love and peace and wish for you a wonderful week!

 

zoey

life coach for wise women

life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Women ~ Health ~ Life: Happy Family Day BC from Topaz Lotus Living

Topaz Lotus Living: Happy Family Day BC!

I don’t usually comment on local politics, however, I think if there was an election tomorrow, Christy Clark and the BC Liberals would win 🙂

 

It was thanks to Christy Clark, that my family and I are relaxing on a lazy, cozy, rainy Monday morning, enjoying the first ever BC Family Day Holiday and I would like to wish you and yours a Happy Family Day too!

 

Families are our foundation!

 

peace,

 

zoey

life coach for wise women

life coaching to set your heart on fire & soothe your soul

 

 

Topaz Lotus Living: Life Crafter 2013

Happy New Years Day my friends! May your 2013 be filled with peace, love, joy and well being!

Please feel free to use and share the Topaz Lotus Life Crafter 2013, which you can find in the drop down menu in the ‘you’ tab above.

Enjoy the New Years Day first sunrise from Loreto Bay, Mexico and make your 2013 the best yet!

in mindfulness,

zoey

zoey ryan ~ yoga & life coach for wise women

coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

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Women ~ Life ~ Health: Daily Affirmation!

Affirmation of the Day: Mind & Body Connection!

 

Today I value, honor and appreciate the messages my body sends me!

 

Enjoy your day beautiful friends!

 

In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

values based leadership & life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Enjoy this special calming visual … with ‘blissings’ from Zoey

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
~ Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

 

 

Women ~ Life ~ Health: The Power of Gratitude

The Power of Gratitude

 

When I am coaching, a question I often ask is, “what is the one thing, that if you did it consistently, would have the greatest positive impact on your life”?  I hear answers like exercise more, drink less coffee, lose weight.  While all of these activities no doubt will be positive, I’m reminded, as women how we are so busy, “doing”, feeling like we need to change ourselves and seldom stop to just be more of who we are.

 

I recently had occasion to ponder “the question” and my “year in review”.  I sank into the stillness of my home and began listing what I was thankful for.  What I realized was that it is the very small, simple things in life that bring me the greatest joy and sense of fulfillment, not tasks and certainly not “self-improvement projects.  I get a sense of fulfillment from hings like hearing my children laughing, the mist over the water, the depth and comfort of a longstanding friendship.

 

As I sat that early morning, I was reminded that the positive impact was a result, not of doing but of being, of allowing myself reflective time to sink into the “beingness” of me and open to the power of thanksgiving, gratitude and blessings. For me, using gratitude and blessing brings a feeling of putting on the “rose coloured glasses”, a feeling of objectivity, a sense of expansiveness.

 

I was challenged recently in my commitment to this belief when faced with an unexpected and painful loss.  I found myself slipping into a place of hurt, blame and criticism.  The word “blessing” popped into my mind and I quickly said a blessing for the situation.  It went something like this; “blessings on this situation as I know that it is all for the best and that through the pain and sadness, a greater good will come.”  By saying those words I was able to set aside the “righteous victim voice” of “poor me” and had the sense of an easing and softening of my emotions.

 

So, ask yourself, the earlier question, “what is the one thing if integrated into your life regularly, would have the greatest positive impact”?  Experiment with using blessings, gratitude and thanksgiving and feel yourself open into a deeper sense of your “beingness”.  Start by making a list of at least 20 things that you are thankful for.  Every day, give yourself time to sink into your “beingness” and feel gratitude.  Send out blessings to your friends, family, all people and situations and imagine the world taking on a rosy glow!

 

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

– Melody Beattie,  Author

 

In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

values based leadership & life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Enjoy this special calming visual … with ‘blissings’ from Zoey

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
~ Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

Women ~ Health ~ Life: Sunday Sacredness

 

I’ve had the opportunity recently to reflect on the precious ‘fleetingness’ of life and I find my heart blossoming with compassion.

 

Compassion for myself, my family and friends; compassion for the children of the world; compassion for my co-workers; compassion for my community and deep, deep compassion for those who are so filled with hate that they feel violence is a solution.

 

I also feel blessed to be alive, fully able to experience life and the pain, joy, and love that comes with being a mindful human ‘bean’ (as one of our daughters used to say).

 

So, this morning my friends, I wish you a blessed day from the bottom of my heart.

 

May we all live in peace.

 

In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

values based leadership & life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Enjoy this special calming visual … with ‘blissings’ from Zoey

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
~ Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

 

Women ~ Health ~ Life: Heart Centered Self Care for Life Balance

You Deserve To Take Care Of You!

I remember when I returned from an extended stay in Yelapa, Mexico which included the final week as the women’s coaching and yoga retreat which I organized and facilitated.  During this break and retreat from “usual life” I had the opportunity to reflect, renew and review.  I was reminded  again of the importance of calming ourselves and self care and how many of us can get so caught up in being caring of others that we forget to take care of ourselves.

 

Over the past few months I have been re-reading Jack Kornfield’s excellent book, “A Path With Heart” and during the retreat we discussed the section about the paradox of being “selfless” or having “no self” and having a healthy and strong “sense of self” and “true self”.  Kornfield says “There are two parallel tasks in spiritual life.  One is to discover selflessness, the other is to develop a healthy sense of self.  Both sides of that apparent paradox must be fulfilled for us to awaken.”  I would say that this can be applied to general life as well as spiritual life and helps to clarify the definition of “self-care”.  Life coaches often talk about “self-care” and how important it is to put yourself at the top of the list.

 

For clarity, “inrageous/outrageous self care enchantments aka tips”, are tips that are designed to support you to develop a healthy sense of self (your inrageous or inner work), so that you can go out into the world in your relationships, duties and obligations from a strong personal foundation and center.  The metaphor that is often used is that of being on a plane and the safety talk, where the flight attendant reinforces that if you are traveling with children, that it is important to put your own oxygen mask on first, then help your kids with their mask.  The principle is that if you are not being “well oxygenated”, you can’t help others.

 

So, the self-care is about taking care of you! It is about self reflection and self-awareness and enchanting both your inner and outer lives, it is about creating a healthy sense of self.

 

Self-care enchantments for you:

 

  1. Create time for yourself everyday, even if it is 5 minutes and reflect on what nourishes and enchants you.
  2. Put yourself at the top of your priority list.
  3. Let go of one “should do” this upcoming week.
Have a wonderful day my friends!

In peace & mindfulness,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women

values based leadership & life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!

Enjoy this special calming visual … with ‘blissings’ from Zoey

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
~ Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day

 

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