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Archive for September, 2008

Book Review: “The Enlightened Entrepreneur: A Spiritual Approach to Creating and Marketing A Company”

“The Enlightened Entrepreneur: A Spiritual Approach to Creating and Marketing A Company”   by Grace Bulger

In this book, Grace Bulger, a marketing consultant specializing in corporate identity work and former VP of communications for GE Capital Rail Services, brings a strategic, values based process to designing a business.

While totally open to her wording the title with the use of the word “spiritual”, I couldn’t actually find many references to spirituality and certainly few references to religion or a higher power.  What I did find was a clearly laid out, easy to read primer for any socially responsible entrepreneur who wants their business to be an expression of their life purpose.

Not just for the pre-start up phase but for any entrepreneur wanting to re-energize their business, the author mixes real life business examples with practical and easy to follow exercises.  You and your business will benefit!

If you admire business women like Anita Roddick of the Body Shop or respect the social responsibility of Ben and Jerry’s Ice Cream, then I think you will love this book!

Namaste,Zoey

Zoey Ryan

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

life & business coach for women

Coaching for your heart & soul and the heart & soul of your business

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com

604-323-3700

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for September 25, 2008

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for This Week

 

I am very aware that this blurb in not intended to be about me, it is intended to be about you.  Yet, the only life that I can speak about with any assuredness is my own, everything else is projection.  So, may I continue to speak from my wonderfully wounded heart?  It truly is perfect that I can literally feel a soft little tender wounded place in my heart.  The tenderness reminds me of so much!

 

I used to think that a spiritual path involved a challenge or initiation, completion of the challenge and then mastery.  This was my interpretation of Joseph Campbell’s writing of a “hero’s/heroine’s journey”.  Another way of saying this is that I thought that a major life crisis provides a doorway into deeper spiritual growth and that we each get one of these per lifetime.   I think this is a very “western” view. I had already had my “challenge” with a huge family crisis many years ago, felt that I was on my way towards mastery and see how my interpretation was incomplete and one-dimensional.

 

What is perfect about both my husband’s recent health issues involving almost dying and a serious diagnosis and my heart attack is that our lives have been shaken up so completely and so totally that there is no choice but to re-evaluate everything.  We are face to face with “the fear of death.”  This has resulted in me expanding my view and belief about spiritual life and in fact, the meaning of life.  I realize that I had used my good health, my husband’s good health, my relative youth (I’m 51), our 2 income status, to give me a sense of security and perhaps pride or entitlement.    We had a plan and it was working!  Feeling like the “rug has been ripped out from under my feet” has been scary, no, terrifying.  All the awful, horrible feelings, images and fears that I had kept solidly stuffed down inside a hardened heart are free.  I have come face to face with my fear of “being a bag lady”, a single parent, a disabled person, homeless, a widow.  How perfect!  I am so far away from life mastery that I can laugh and chuckle and my, how expansive and gentle and funny (in an honouring way) this feels. 

 

Your self care enchantments if you chose to this week, are about further exploration of “you” and developing deepening “unconditional friendship with yourself”.

 

Self Care Enchantments for the week:

 

1.  Explore when you feel secure and when you feel insecure?  What contributes to your security?  What if it was no longer there?

2.  How do you feel about your heart, is it hardened in any way, do you feel you are protecting an area of your heart?  Play with the images of a cold, hard, rigid heart and a soft warm melted heart.

3. In preparation for Thanksgiving, on a daily basis “give thanks” for something difficult in your life and observe the results. 

 

“May your life be like a wildflower, growing freely in beauty and joy each day.”

 

– Native American Proverb

 

Please share about your learning and exploration with these enchantments on www.thepowblog.com in the comments section of these enchantments!

 

namaste,

 

Zoey

 

Zoey Ryan

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

life & business coach for women

“Coaching for your heart & soul and the heart & soul of your business”

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com

604-323-3700

 

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for September 18, 2008

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for This Week

 

You may have noticed that POW was not published last week.  I was having a wonderful personal adventure of having my life be my spiritual practice and was unable to publish POW.  For this week, I wish to speak from my heart and soul and share with you about this experience.

 

 As you know, the book for this month is Pema Chodron’s “When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times.”  I picked this book specifically as we are going through a difficult time with a serious health issue with my husband.  As one may imagine, I have been “broken hearted” about my husband’s diagnosis. 

 

Well, my heart is broken, literally.  I developed a small tear in an artery of my heart resulting in a heart attack.  What I find fascinating is not just the fact that my physical body responded to my empathy and compassion for my husband but that I was reading the chapter in Pema Chodron’s book about “Nonaggression and the Four Maras”.  She says that the yama mara is rooted in the fear of death and continues by saying that it is when we feel we have gotten to the “good life” that we are actually not fully alive.  Here are her words “We finally feel that we’re a good person.  We have good qualities, we’re peaceful, and we don’t get thrown off balance when arrows are shot at us.  We’re the person who knows how to turn an arrow into a flower.  We feel so good about ourselves.  We’ve finally tied up all the loose ends.  We’re happy.  We think that that’s life.”  This is where I was at a few weeks ago.

 

Pema Chodron goes on to say “…rejoicing in feeling confirmed and whole, self-contained and comfortable, is some kind of death.  It doesn’t have any fresh air.  There’s no room for something to come in and interrupt all that.  We are killing the moment by controlling our experience.  Doing this is setting ourselves up for failure, because sooner or later, we’re going to have an experience we can’t control: our house is going to burn down, someone we love is going to die, we’re going to find out we have cancer, a brick is going to fall out of the sky and hit us on the head, somebody’s going to spill tomato juice all over our white suit…The essence of life is that it is challenging.  Sometimes it is sweet, and sometimes it is bitter…..To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.”

 

I have certainly been thrown out of the nest!  I share this with you not because I want or need sympathy, rather, I share this with you as a reminder of the inter connectedness of life and from the perspective of our lives as our spiritual practice.  Rather than running away from pain, hurt, fear, anger, anxiety, unworthiness, we can use these feelings to go deeper in our relationship with ourselves and use the reality of our lives as our spiritual practice.

 

So, this week, your self care enchantments if you chose to are about gently exploring both the sweet and the bitter, the good and the bad, the pain and the pleasure, the groundedness and the groundlessness.  This is a continuation of the practice of “unconditional friendship with yourself”.

 

 

Self Care Enchantments for the week:

 

1.  Explore what you believe about life and pain and pleasure?

2.  Very gently ask yourself how you “run away” from pain, fear, anxiety.  Do you use shopping therapy, food, exercise, alcohol, work for example, to take yourself out of your feelings?

3.  Honour the fall season and prepare for “the harvest” by acknowledging what you are harvesting in your life this season. 

 

“May your life be like a wildflower, growing freely in beauty and joy each day.”

 

– Native American Proverb

 

Please share about your learning and exploration with these enchantments on www.thepowblog.com in the comments section of these enchantments!

 

namaste,

 

Zoey

 

Zoey Ryan

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

life & business coach for women

“Coaching for your heart & soul and the heart & soul of your business”

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com

604-323-3700

 

 

Spiritual Growth for Women: Zoey’s Top 7 Book Picks

Zoey’s Top 7 Book Picks:

 

Passionate Presence: Experiencing the Seven Qualities of Awakened Awareness 

by Catherine Ingram

A Path With Heart: A Guide Through The Perils And Promises of Spiritual Life

by Jack Kornfield

A Thousand Names for Joy: Living in Harmony with the Way Things Are

by Byron Katie

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

 by Eckhart Tolle

A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose 

by Eckhart Tolle

A Woman’s Journey to God: Finding the Feminine Path

 by Joan Borysenko

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

by Pema Chodron

Enjoy these books my friends!

“May your life be like a wildflower, growing freely in beauty and joy each day.”

– Native American Proverb

in peace & mindfulness

namaste,

Zoey

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Women Entrepreneurs: Work From Your Strengths

Work From Your Strengths Not Your Weaknesses!

 

As Michael Gerber in his series of writing on the “E-Myth” points out, an entrepreneur can not sustain multiple roles for long before becoming overwhelmed, disillusioned and often “broke”.  As an entrepreneur and particularly for women entrepreneurs who may also have the main role in doing the “work/kid/domestic duties/life balance” juggle, the new mantra or trend is “work from your strengths not your weaknesses”!

 

How many of you know what your strengths are?  What about your weaknesses?

 

There are many ways to figure this out from self-reflection and personal questioning to using assessments and inventories, to working with a skilled professional.  Two simple questions to ask are: what do I love doing in my business, what do I hate doing in my business.

 

Once you have determined three key strengths and three key weaknesses, the fun part starts.  You can use the “trends” of creativity, collaboration and partnership to ignite your business.  Here is how it works; say you love visioning and staying in touch with all your clients and vendors but hate the admin side and all the paperwork.  Working from your strengths would mean that you continued to do the activities that you loved and either hired or formed a strategic alliance or partnership with someone who loves the details and paperwork.  Or, say that you are an amazing coach and love coaching but get stuck when it comes to marketing.  You form a “partnership” with another coach or business person in a complementary field who loves marketing and together you are a dynamic and powerful collaborative force!

 

So, get to know your strengths and give yourself permission to work from your strengths!  You will experience greater passion, pleasure and my guess is, profitability in your business.  I would love to assist you with this process and use the “personal coaching styles inventory” as a guide.  Another resource that might be helpful is the book, “Now Discover Your Strengths” by Marcus Cunningham and Donald O. Clifton.

 

“May your life be like a wildflower, growing freely in beauty and joy each day.” – Native American Proverb

 

namaste,

 

Zoey

 

Zoey Ryan, PCC

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

certified life & business coach for women

“Coaching for your heart & soul and the heart & soul of your business”

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

604-323-3700

Women and “The Soul of Money”

If your childhood was anything like mine, you grew up believing that “rich people are greedy”, “money is the root of all evil” and that the dad in the house is the main “bread winner”. 

 

In my work as a life & business coach for women, I often work with clients for whom “money issues” are like grungy coloured threads knotted up in their otherwise beautiful tapestry of life.  For many women, money and being wealthy is all tied up with a sense of unworthiness, un-deservedness and shame.  Particularly, it seems with women on a spiritual path, poverty can be directly attached to “purity” and being wealthy is viewed as somewhat shameful and taking money away from those who need it more.  It is confusing and convoluted and this knot of threads can take courage, commitment and gentle resolve to untangle.

 

Lynne Twist, in her excellent book “The Soul of Money” page 223, says “we all have life sentences embedded in our beliefs and our worldview” (about money).   She reminds us that “It is possible to rewrite them and consciously re-script our responses to include the inspiration we need to ground ourselves around money.” Read through the following guidelines that she shares and spend a few moments right now appreciating and blessing the money and prosperity in your life:

 

Money is like water.  It can be a conduit for commitment, a currency of love.

 

Money moving in the direction of our highest commitments nourishes our world and ourselves.

 

What you appreciate appreciates.

 

When you make a difference with what you have, it expands.

 

Collaboration creates prosperity.

 

True abundance flows from enough, never from more.

 

Money carries our intention.  If we use it with integrity, then it carries integrity forward.

 

Know the flow – take responsibility for the way your money moves in the world.

 

Let your soul inform your money and your money express your soul.

 

Access your assets – not only money but also your own character and capabilities, your relationships and other non-money resources.

 

Aren’t those beautiful statements?  Imagine untangling your knot of “money issues” and weaving in these beautiful and brilliantly coloured phrases instead!  What a amazing tapestry you would create!

 

“May your life be like a wildflower, growing freely in beauty and joy each day.” – Native American Proverb

 

namaste,

 

Zoey

 

Zoey Ryan

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

life & business coach for women

“Coaching for your heart & soul and the heart & soul of your business”

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com

604-323-3700

 

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for September 4, 2008

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for This Week

 

Do you ever find your self wondering exactly what does “self care” mean?  This segment of course is all about self care and we have been using this terminology for the past many months, yet I have many women still ask me, “but isn’t it selfish to put myself first”?

 

Last week I included the phrases “motherly love” and “compassion towards yourself” as capturing the essence of self-care!  Another word that fits into this discussion is “maitri.”  Maitri is a Sanskrit word often translated as “unconditional friendship with oneself”.

 

What strikes me is that as we can develop “unconditional friendship with ourselves”, we bring compassion and a gentleness into our “self-care” practice.  Starting from gentleness and respect allows life to flow forth in quite a different way than striving towards the completion of projects.

 

So, this week, as we edge further into the fall season, explore the practice of unconditional friendship with yourself and from a soft and gentle place, experiment with the following enchantments:

 

Self Care Enchantments for the week:

 

1.  Explore the concept of friendship, and consider if you hold yourself to a higher and different standard than you hold your friends ie are you more critical of yourself than you are of your friends?

2.  Be gentle with yourself this week and notice when this is easy or difficult.

3.  Mark the changing of the seasons in some way.  You may wish to buy a new journal or prepare your garden or design another ritual that helps you say good bye to summer and to welcome fall.

 

“May your life be like a wildflower, growing freely in beauty and joy each day.”

 

– Native American Proverb

 

Please share about your learning and exploration with these enchantments on www.thepowblog.com in the comments section of these enchantments!

 

namaste,

 

Zoey

 

Zoey Ryan

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

life & business coach for women

“Coaching for your heart & soul and the heart & soul of your business”

www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com

www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com

604-323-3700

 

 

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