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Women Health Life: Words of Wisdom Heart of Wisdom – Integrity

Women Health Life:  Words of Wisdom Heart of Wisdom – Integrity

Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you’ve got.
—Janis Joplin
We tend, through life, to be confronted with many ethical dilemmas where we need to draw on our personal codes and guiding principles.  These dilemmas may feel small or large, depending on the circumstance.  Part of “life coaching” is helping women develop clarity about their personal guiding principles and values.  I often suggest that clients ask themselves the following question; “can you live with yourself, with your integrity intact, if you make that decision”?

I found the following definitions of the word “integrity” to be very interesting (from:

1 : firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values : incorruptibility
2 : an unimpaired condition : soundness
3 : the quality or state of being complete or undivided : completeness

Most folks I talk with are familiar with then first definition, however, it is the third definition that I find fascinating, especially if one applies this to people not cell membranes! In ancient traditions one often hears about each person’s aura or “egg” of energy.  In psychological and mind/body terms, one talks about “containment” and the idea that the whole is greater than the sum of it’s parts.

What if we placed the emphasis on first “getting whole” and then making decisions; would that automatically mean we make integral decisions?

Now I know this discussion may seem ‘airy fairy’ to some, yet, it is a serious question.  If we design a practice and actions so that we have a “felt experience” of being whole, complete and contained, with all parts of us, mind, body, spirit and emotions connecting and integrated, then, I would say, we can’t help but function with integrity.

In our Western culture, we are encouraged to primarily use our mind in making decisions.  What if we also asked “what would my heart say about this”, or ”how does gut feel” with that decision?

In previous postings about being a sage or wise woman, I have discussed a variety of qualities from wisdom to power, from courage to gentleness; with incorporating the word “integrity” we add in both meanings of the word and draw on the concept of wholeness or completeness as well as a personal code of ethics.

So, you see, being a wise woman with integrity may encompass so much more than just being true to oneself.  Janis Joplin has half the equation!   Imagine a world where we all make decisions with both our head and our hearts for the purposes of deeper connection!

Luscious ladies, play around with the following questions
“Self-care Enchantments”:

  1. 1. When have you experienced a challenge to your personal code of ethics?  How did you respond?
  2. 2. Do you or how do you experience a sense of wholeness or containment?
  3. 3. This week, when making a decision, run it through your head, your heart and your gut and see if the process feels different.

In peace & mindfulness,



Women Health Words of Wisdom: Natural Health Tip for the Day!

Women Health Words of Wisdom: Natural Health Tip of the Day!

In Northern climates, during the Fall and Winter, we don’t get as much sun and this can really affect female health!  Many women suffers from “SADS”: seasonal affective disorder due to lack of sunlight.  The symptoms are reduced energy, feeling ‘blah’ and feeling sad.

In addition to your regular ‘foundational self-care’ and healthy lifestyle program, ask your Holistic Nutritionist, Registered Dietitian, Doctor or Naturopath about supplementing your diet with extra Vitamin D3, the ‘sunshine vitamin’.  Extra supplementation can help to reduce the symptoms of SADS!

Make it an awesome day!

In peace & mindfulness



Women Power, The Future and the Rise of ‘Femocracy’?

Our world is changing, of that there is no doubt!  With hope, in the future, our children and grandchildren will be living in a world of peace, where a ‘partnership model’ rather than a ‘dominator model’ is in place.

Most women I know want to live a healthy lifestyle with purpose and passion.  From a place of  ‘life in balance’,  they are the major decision makers in family health and kids health.  I know that as a working mother, I think often about what the future holds for myself, my family, my friends and my community.

We are seeing increasing numbers of women leaders in all areas.  Rather than replicate the mistakes of the past by using a dominator model, I urge all women, especially women in leadership to use a partnership model!

In considering these models and the future, it helps to review the key  ‘organizing principles’ below:

  • • command and control– think “military”.
  • • competition – think “I win, you lose”.
  • • cooperation – think “I scratch your back, you scratch mine”.
  • • collaboration – think “win-win”.
  • • co-creation – think “the whole is greater than the sum of it’s parts”.

A ‘Dominator  Model’ utilizes the first two and sometimes the third and a ‘Partnership Model’ utilizes primarily the last two.

Consider all the systems in the world today, ie political, military, corporate, business, educational, health care, religion.  Most of these systems are based on a ‘command and control’ model where there is a leader (most often male) and a triangle of power and control flowing down from the leadership level.  It is the dismantling of this model and the shift to new, healthier organizing principles that the ‘Occupy Movement” is all about for example.

Traditionally women naturally  draw on their heart and soul wisdom and use co-creation, collaboration and cooperation in their lives. For centuries, women have sat in a circle around a fire, over a cup of tea, around the children playing, chatting and throwing out ideas for simplifying and improving their lives and the lives of their families.  These models tremendously help to improve women health, family health, emotional intelligence and mental health.  This is indicated with current scientific research and not just with feminists!

As the world allows women of all ages and particularly elder women to play a more prominent role in all areas, ‘Women Power’ will increase for the good of us all.  Will we actually live in a “femocracy” or in more of a ‘collective partnership’?  We don’t know yet, however, it is important to teach our children the beauty of sitting in circle together, of ‘win-win-win’ and collective co-creative thinking.

Women leaders, base your leadership style of the last two principles and use the partnership model!  This will lend creativity, inspiration, innovation to your organization!

I call this all ‘matrixed heart and soul’ wisdom!  Enjoy your wonderful day!

In peace and mindfulness.



Working Women Health – Serenity At The End of the Day

Sometimes just looking at a beautiful, relaxing image helps de-stress at the end of a busy day as a ‘working mother’.




wisdom coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul


Remembering and a Future of Peace

Remembering and honoring our veterans and praying for peace & unity!




Women Health: Words of Wisdom

Life & Leadership Coaching Tip For Women Health

Embrace your day with joy and excitement!

Start your day by meditating quietly and then write down, in your own handwriting, your ‘intentions’ for the day.

Intentions are different than goals. Goal are something you strive towards and require effort. Intentions are attached to ‘good feeling emotions’ and can draw you forward effortlessly.

An example: ‘It is my intention that my day flows forward with joy and excitement.




Women Health ~ words of wisdom

You have the choice every day to choose health or illness; struggle or peace; sharing or competition; balance or chaos; me or we; happiness or grumpiness; love or fear!

I say we choose peace, vitality, sharing, happiness and love.

Have a wonderful day.


In peace & mindfulness,



Women Health Words of Wisdom: alMost Everything I Learned About Nutrition I Learned From My Mother!

Women Health Words of Wisdom

OK, so you need to know that when I was 16 years of age, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer.  This was in 1973 and a diagnosis of this kind was very serious and very scary.  What is wonderful is that my mom lived for 22 very healthy years after her diagnosis.

My mom grew up the oldest of 9 on a farm on the Canadian Prairies during the Depression.  Believe me, she learned how to re-use, reduce and re-cycle! Her family and neighbors all grew their own food in a summer garden and then harvested, canned and ‘put by food’ for the long winters.  Living on a farm, my mom was very connected to her ‘women health’, food supply, milking cows for milk and cream, picking eggs from the hen house, helping to butcher chickens, cows and pigs for meat.  I know some of this sounds very ‘earthy’ to our pasteurized ears, yet, to this day, our food does come from farms!

Having a ‘lived experience’ of being a nutritionist, with her diagnosis, my mom also under took an intense study of natural nutrition and healing.  Not having access to scientific research articles (which likely was a good thing), she did the best she could and signed out all the natural nutrition books from our local library.  She read the books by Catherine Elwood, Adele Davis and “A Diet for A Small Planet” by Francis Moore Lappe.  We had to drive from Fort St. John to Dawson Creek for some of the foods and supplements as it was the closest health food store.  She radically changed how we all ate; gone were the soft doughy cinnamon buns;  replaced by ‘whole grain everything’, nuts, seeds, small portions of wild meats (we were living in Northern BC and received venison and moose as gifts) and chicken and lots of vegetables grown in her garden.  She herself went on a ‘rejuvenation diet’ complete with fresh juicing, brown rice and lots of supplementation.  I recall a drink made with liquified organic baby calf liver, however, I may have dreamed that one 🙂  My mom did have conventional treatment too and had a mastectomy and radiation therapy.

I also read everything I could about natural nutrition and healing and became so interested in the subject that I decided to study nutrition in University.  I truly value my university education and learned a lot about health and disease, food chemistry, nutrition, biochemistry, physiology and more than I wanted to learn about organic chemistry!  In my university life I enjoyed cooking and sharing meals.  I remember a huge Greek themed feast for about 18 and a particularly enjoyable Thanksgiving when I made stuffed rock cornish game hen and other delicious foods.  After completing my degree, I practiced as a Registered Dietitian/Nutritionist for over 20 years (BCDNA Regstrant 1980 – 2003).

Reflecting on the last 38 years (age 54-16) that I have been a Nutrtionist, I can say that alMost everything I learned about natural nutrition, I learned from my mom.  Here it is:

– eat real food

– cook and eat meals together as a family (whichever constellation that might be)

– enjoy your food and meals

– grow your own food, if you can’t,  get it at the local farmer’s market or ‘buy local’

– eat whole food in as natural a state as possible with as little cooking as possible

– eat lots of whole grains, nuts, seeds, beans, legumes and vegetables and fruit

– when appropriate use special juicing, soups and ‘macrobiotic’ type recipes

– save the ‘cinnamon buns’ for very special occasions!

My mom died from breast cancer October 14th, 1996 and I still think of her as the first real nutritionist that I knew!

Enjoy your cooking, eating and food today and always!



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