OK, so I turn 50 on friday, March 16th and this pre-50th birthday time has provided me with plenty of opportunities for personal reflection and pondering and I realize, I am loving the fact that I will be 50.
Somehow, into my early imprinting, I was given the message that women 50 and older deserve to be treated with respect, consideration and acknowledgment for life lessons learned. Of course, women, girls, men, children, boys all deserve this but for me, there is something very significant about turning 50. My birthday time is also in sync with my cycles in that my cycles have stopped, so this life transition seems even more of a significant turning point.
I can say with a great deal of emphasis, “I am a 50 year old woman and I will no longer…..”. What I have yet to unearth and decide is that those things I will no longer do, engage in, listen to, watch, receive will be.
As well, with the age thing, I am again pondering my opinion on “enhancements”. I have always said that I will never have plastic surgery, or botox or liposuction etc. I do however colour my greying hair, have had electrolysis and use cosmetics. So, where is the line? What does ageing naturally actually mean. I am a perhaps a walking contradiction!
I love how Joan Borysenko talks about all of this in her book “A Woman’s Book of Life: The Biology, Psychology, and Spirituality of the Feminine Life Cycle”. She says about her own journey “at forty-nine I also felt that I was just growing up, just becoming a woman. The Cherokees, in fact believe that we don’t enter adulthood until fifty-one. On my better days, I had the exciting conviction that life was about to begin on a deeper, more passionate level than had been possible before. Two different voices were vying for control of my mind and emotions. The intuitive wisdom of the ages was calling for a celebration of re-birth into a deeper femininity. The societal myths about women and aging, on the other had, were preparing me for the death of everything I had known and cherished about being female.”
As a 50 year old woman, I choose celebration: sinking into deeper femininity, wisdom, deeper spirituality, giving back, service, loving more, feeling vibrant and healthy, loving my age spots, wrinkles, sags and various other body changes. I am loving being almost 50. I am woman, hear me roar!
namaste,
Zoey
coach . catalyst . shakti sage
Life & Business Coach for Women