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Women’s Life: Self Care Enchantments for Oct 30, 2008

We have been exploring the concept of life patterns and the notion of paradox, yin and yang.  I attended a wonderful Diwali celebration last night and there were lights and candles, beautiful bright sparkly colours, exotic aromas and wonderful people.  My daughter and I got mehendi henna designs on our hands and I was adorned with traditional Diwali makeup including a vibrant blue and pink eyeshadow and a bindi  spot on my third eye.


It is a powerful time of the year with Diwali, Halloween, Dia de los Muertos, and All Saints Day.  It seems to me, that what these celebrations highlight is the juxtaposition of light and dark, life and death.


We do not talk about death easily, yet it is so much a part of our experience of life.  Our community recently lost a vibrant young man in a tragic car accident.  We drive by the accident site almost daily and we and our daughters know the family.  The sharp point of the pain is really sharp at the moment for our community and while there is a memorial at the accident site and there will be a service, it seems “too small”.  It seems like we should be gathering closer and talking more and doing more for the family.  It feels like the whole community should be wailing and keening and sobbing, yet life goes on.


It is a very powerful practice to consider both life and death; light and dark.  Your enchantments for this week deeply honour this notion and in the spirit of shared intention, I offer the following “enchantments”.


Self Care Enchantments for the week:


1.  Remember and honour those who have already passed on.  If you choose to, learn about the Dia de los Muertos (day of the dead) Festival as celebrated in Mexico and adopt one of the rituals.


2.  In your personal life, what patterns are asking to be let go of or are ready to “die”?


3.  Dressing up in costume can be incredibly fun and liberating even if it is simply wearing a wild scarf or bindi spot, so, go for it, dress up in a costume and balance the dark with the light, bright and sparkly.


“The true harvest of my life is intangible – a little star dust caught, a portion of the rainbow I have clutched” – Henry David Thoreau


We would love to hear about your experience with these enchantments.  Please share about your learning and exploration with these enchantments in the comments section!






Zoey Ryan

coach . catalyst . shakti sage

life & business coach for women

“Coaching for your heart & soul and the heart & soul of your business”


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