You Deserve To Take Care Of You!
I remember when I returned from an extended stay in Yelapa, Mexico which included the final week as the women’s coaching and yoga retreat which I organized and facilitated. During this break and retreat from “usual life” I had the opportunity to reflect, renew and review. I was reminded again of the importance of calming ourselves and self care and how many of us can get so caught up in being caring of others that we forget to take care of ourselves.
Over the past few months I have been re-reading Jack Kornfield’s excellent book, “A Path With Heart” and during the retreat we discussed the section about the paradox of being “selfless” or having “no self” and having a healthy and strong “sense of self” and “true self”. Kornfield says “There are two parallel tasks in spiritual life. One is to discover selflessness, the other is to develop a healthy sense of self. Both sides of that apparent paradox must be fulfilled for us to awaken.” I would say that this can be applied to general life as well as spiritual life and helps to clarify the definition of “self-care”. Life coaches often talk about “self-care” and how important it is to put yourself at the top of the list.
For clarity, “inrageous/outrageous self care enchantments aka tips”, are tips that are designed to support you to develop a healthy sense of self (your inrageous or inner work), so that you can go out into the world in your relationships, duties and obligations from a strong personal foundation and center. The metaphor that is often used is that of being on a plane and the safety talk, where the flight attendant reinforces that if you are traveling with children, that it is important to put your own oxygen mask on first, then help your kids with their mask. The principle is that if you are not being “well oxygenated”, you can’t help others.
So, the self-care is about taking care of you! It is about self reflection and self-awareness and enchanting both your inner and outer lives, it is about creating a healthy sense of self.
Self-care enchantments for you:
- Create time for yourself everyday, even if it is 5 minutes and reflect on what nourishes and enchants you.
- Put yourself at the top of your priority list.
- Let go of one “should do” this upcoming week.
In peace & mindfulness,
Zoey Ryan BSc., PCC
executive ~ leadership ~ life coach for wise women
values based leadership & life coaching to set your heart on fire and soothe your soul!
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
~ Mary Oliver from the poem A Summers Day