Women, Self-Care Tips and Life Enchantments: “Being a Shakti Sage & Integrity”!
“Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you’ve got.” — Janis Joplin
We tend, through life, to be confronted with many ethical dilemmas where we need to draw on our personal codes and guiding principles. These dilemmas may feel small or large, depending on the circumstance. Part of “life coaching” is helping folks develop clarity about their personal guiding principles and values. I often suggest that clients ask themselves the following question; “can you live with yourself, with your integrity intact, if you make that decision”?
I found the following definitions of the word “integrity” to be very interesting
1 : firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values : incorruptibility ?2 : an unimpaired condition : soundness ?3 : the quality or state of being complete or undivided : completeness
Most folks I talk with are familiar with the first definition, however, it is the third definition that I find fascinating, especially if one applies this to people not cell membranes! In ancient traditions one often hears about each person’s aura or “egg” of energy. In psychological and mind/body terms, one talks about “containment” and the idea that the whole is greater than the sum of it’s parts.
What if we placed the emphasis on first “getting whole” and then making decisions; would that automatically mean we make integral decisions?
Now I know this discussion may seem airy fairy to some, yet, it is a serious question. If we design a practice and actions so that we have a “felt experience” of being whole, complete and contained, with all parts of us, mind, body, spirit and emotions connecting and integrated, then, I would say, we can’t help but function with integrity.
In our Western culture, we are encouraged to use primarily our mind in making decisions. What if we also asked “what would my heart say about this”, or ”how does gut feel” with that decision?
In previous postings, I have discussed a variety of qualities from wisdom to power, from courage to gentleness; with incorporating the word “integrity” we add in both meanings of the word and draw on the concept of wholeness or completeness as well as a personal code of ethics.
So, you see, living with integrity may encompass so much more than just being true to oneself. Janis Joplin has half the equation! Imagine a world where we all make decisions with both our head and our hearts for the purposes of deeper connection!
This week, luscious ladies, play around with the following questions
“Self-care Tips and Life Enchantments”:
1. When have you experienced a challenge to your personal code of ethics? How did you respond?
2. Do you or how do you experience a sense of wholeness or containment?
3. This week, when making a decision, run it through your head, your heart and your gut and see if the process feels different.
Please share your comments!
Zoey – founding hippy at hippy grandma
life, business & leadership coach for women
inspiration * clarity * wisdom * enchantment
“Coaching for your heart & soul and the heart & soul of your business”